Update: “Ready to be a Snowbird” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Ready to be a Snowbird,” a grandmother whose boyfriend called her grandsons “little monsters” and wouldn’t allow them in his house that the LW had moved into with him. She wrote:

“Maybe none of this even matters now because I’m ready to move to a southern state near my son. I have medical conditions affected by the cold here. Scott said he’d like to move south also but not for three years! I don’t want to wait that long, but I feel bad leaving him. He’s getting older and doesn’t really have anyone else. At the same time, he’s very inflexible and difficult. He has stopped traveling and doing anything fun. Of course, I love him, but I’m tired of everything being on his terms. I want to fully retire and get a small home of my own where my kids and grandkids can visit. I have no problem with a long-distance relationship or doing a snowbird kind of thing. What do you advise? — Ready to be a Snowbird”

Her update:

“I have made some steps forward with my living situation. I was traveling October through the Christmas holiday. So back to reality! I did make an offer on a home in November in the South. Unfortunately, the builder was not flexible with price and incentives. I’ve been looking at two other less expensive homes, and I likely will be placing on offer soon. One is the same builder so not sure how that will go. The other house I actually like better but it is not in as interesting a location. I’m feeling some relief. I am sad on one hand that my boyfriend and I have not been successful in making things work in his home. It won’t be an easy task moving across the country and leaving. My son and his family will be within hours, though. I’m looking forward to growing lemon, limes, and fig trees! Thanks for your support and interest.”

 
Lemon, lime, and fig trees > a boyfriend who won’t let your grandsons come over! Wishing you the best in finding the perfect home for yourself.
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If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at wendy@dearwendy.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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