It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “L Bomb Explosion,” who worried that her boyfriend of nearly a year still hadn’t told her he loved her despite her having told him recently. After the jump, read her update.
Thank you so much for posting my letter. The commenters who mentioned the “Seinfield” and “SATC” episodes really hit it on the head. As it turns out, he said “I love you” on his own in between me writing to you and the letter being posted. However, everyone’s advice about incorporating better communication has been really helpful because having those hard conversations is something that as a couple is difficult for us (if we could have those conversations telepathically I seriously think we would). But I think finally coming out and saying “I love you” helped to bring down that final communication wall that we had, and all of your advice made me realize I was silly being so worried about starting these not so fun conversations. We’ve started talking about what our plan for next year is going to be if he ends up in a different city post-graduation. We decided we’re going to try long distance, and now that we’re communicating much better I feel more confident that we could make a year or more of long distance work. Thank you all so much for your advice and I’m glad I was able to give you all a happy update!
Thanks for the update!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at email@example.com with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
JK March 8, 2012, 12:30 pm
Aww, I love happy updates. Thanks LW.
And I hear you on the communication issues, my husband and I were the same way. After nearly 10 years we do pretty much communicate telepathically though. 🙂
annie March 8, 2012, 2:40 pm
I remember this letter. It reminded me a lot of my own story. Me and my boyfriend had been together for 2 YEARS and broke up before he finally told me he loved me…. in an email no less! So I guess not that similar… Very happy everything worked out for you! For us the main problem was both of our fears of that kind of intimate communication. We are married now so we got over it obviously. I wonder if I had written about the situation at the time if I wouldve heard a lot of MOAs? hmmmm. Also wanted to add that because of his school we were long distance for a while and it was the best thing that ever happened for our communication! Its the reason we got back together eventually and married. When you dont have the person and your fear of their reaction right there in front of you, you would be surprised how much you open up. Good luck to you!!
Caris March 8, 2012, 3:52 pm
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