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I make mini cakes or cupcakes. The upside is I have a reason to buy mini bundt cake pans with this strategy 🙂
So we’re at 5+ months. For his birthday I baked vanilla cupcakes (he’s strange and likes vanilla better than chocolate) and took him to a Roger Daltrey talk with Judd Apatow. (Roger Daltrey is from the Who for everyone who’s not into classic rock) I also bought him an album he’s been looking for for a while…he’s into vinyl.
It all went over well, and we had a great time so I’m relieved.
I would LOVE to do a dog meetup. They look like so much fun. I just want to go and play with the good boys. Sadly, I’m not allowed to have pets in my place. But if anyone has pics of their pets for me to fawn over, I’d love that too…
So what did everyone do this weekend? We were supposed to go to a clockwork orange, drove all the way into downtown LA..and then got there and discovered the outdoor cinema had changed the movie to Coco when we see all sorts of people running around in day of the dead makeup. Not exactly the experience I was expecting. The AG looks at the wildly painted people and then me and says in a very deadpan voice “I always have the most memorable time with you.” I laughed soo hard and then we went to a bar for a drink and then out to dinner.
speaking of silly…during the day he took me to the museum of Jurassic technology, which was not at all what I expected. I was expecting old crays and radio shack computers, maybe a LISA. Instead, it is just full of oddness. I really like that he gets my sense of humor – I enjoy the ridiculous so much and he pretty much gave me that. All in all a good weekend.
I’m nervous though – tomorrow is his birthday. I bought him a present of course, something small and hopefully thoughtful, but now I’m seriously overthinking this. What do you get the significant other at the 5 month mark when you have Serious Feelings but havent talked about em yet? Sheesh.
Last week we went to see Eric Idle give a talk about his new book. Bob sagat was interviewing him and it was a whole lot of fun.
We’re going to a rooftop showing of “A clockwork orange” tomorrow. I’ve never been to one, so it’s something I am really looking forward to. He normally plans our dates because he knows the city much better than I do, but when he was across the globe a few months ago he mentioned this was his favorite Kubrick film. When I saw the announcement for it I bought tickets right away and then asked if he wanted to go.
We typically see each other about 2x a week…once during the weekend where we spend an afternoon/evening together and one evening a week where we hang out at his house and watch tv or he plays guitar for me, or listen to music etc. It’s actually the perfect amount for me – I dont feel pressured to rearrange my life for him and I always love our time together.
What a hectic week. I am just now catching up with everyone’s dates here. @Cleo: I think you are very wise to take the time you need to be ready before making such a big change.
@Veritek – how exciting…are you considering your romance a success story now?My AG came back a bit early Saturday night (1030 pm instead of 1 in the morn) and immediately texted me, asking if I had time to go see him. I was so excited to have him here again! He saw the house he bought sight unseen and big relief, loved it. Been helping him get ready to move and put everything into storage (his current house closes in a few days, he cant move into the new one for another 6 weeks due to that closing date +some reno) and juggling work plus a side work project a friend asked for help on and start the “kids will be where for which” holiday discussions.
Anyway, we haven’t had the big feelings discussion because, well, hectic time. If I said it now, would be about my needs and not his – not thinking about what he’s already juggling. But I can feel the words there, waiting to be said.
We’ve spent a fair amount of full days together, but only one night. I’m a single mom and granted I have 2 adult children (21 and 22) and a 12 year old at home…I don’t feel comfortable being gone all night regularly. The adult kids can do an excellent job watching the 12 year old, but its not the same as having MOM there for him.
And yeah, I think waiting is better. Possibly just because I’m in stage 2 of @Copa’s list there and seriously lack the guts currently 🙂
@Vader – that sounds like a great date. Another tonight? I can’t wait to hear the details.
@Ale – I love the attitude of more friends is better 🙂
@Copa – oh man. What a scary question. Not yet, I think. He’ll just be back from a long and hard trip, and he bought the house that I was showing him when I realized I loved him. without ever seeing it. So now he’s going to be juggling even more with the closings on both houses, the reno on the new, finding a place to live before his new house closes and on and on. I just can’t see adding more weight on him right now. Maybe when stuff settles down a bit more?@Copa – your BG sounds like a good person. What a cute story 🙂
@Ale – becoming friends is a great thing. Or do you mean you don’t see in him the potential for more?My AG comes back really late on Saturday/very early Sunday. Have to say I’m rather nervous and yet super excited to see him again.
Good luck @shakeourtree and @LadyE. We’ll be thinking of you!
@Cleopatra_30…I can barely say it to ME right now lol. Never been here, took great care before to not be that open. In other news…the AG put in an offer on the house that we video walked through. Looks like it’s being accepted so I REALLY hope he likes it when he gets back. I can’t imagine spending Westside LA cash on a house I’ve never seen in real life! I’m going to feel so so gui’lty if he doesnt like it when he gets back.@Cleopatra_30 It’s a scary thing. I saw him and the first thought in my head when he smiled was just that I loved him. Just that simple and complicated. Thing is, I’ve been married twice, but never truly been in love. When I was doing the hard work of therapy, my therapist helped me realize that it was because of my childhood that I wanted someone who wouldn’t leave but who couldn’t truly hurt me – because I always had that small core tucked away, safe you know? I had to acknowledge my part in all of that in order to heal.
So for me this is brand new territory, being open to someone like this. Is not the weird sunshine and flowers explosions people always say they have. Is more like..just a knowing, deep inside. And I don’t know how to handle it other than take a breath and see if I’m stuck or it passes like the flu.
@Copa – I’d get him something small related to the experience – like a souvenir pic if they do those? Nothing major, just a momento of your time together.
So the AG has been househunting, and his current house went into escrow right before this almost month-long trip. He asked me to go look at a couple and do a video walk through. Neither of us are good phone/video chatting people; we both prefer to text. On the first one his agent wanted to talk to him so we started up a vid chat. Just all of a sudden he smiled and there he was. My heart just splatted at his feet. I don’t even know what to do with this. We’re closing in on 5 months together…it just seems sudden to me. Luckily I’ve got 2 weeks before he gets back to get my head straight.
@Ale – Pet guy sounds like fun. I hope you went on another date. Your coworkers are def. clueless. There doesn’t seem to be any good reason to bring that all up. I hope you are feeling better!
So the last week and a half has been hectic. The AG was at an academic/corp. series of meetings on this thing he helped build, then had to head to Canada to a conference, and is now in a middle eastern country for work and to visit family. The man traveled to the east coast for 3 days, came back for a day and half to see me, Canada for 2 days, back here for a day, and then to the middle east for almost a month. I took the day after his Canada trip off, and we got to spend the entire day together. We just hung out, ran errands, I helped him pack, we went to dinner..mundane things you know? But the time with him was awesome. He’s now 10 hours difference in the time zone department, but we’re still managing to catch each other. Before he left I told him that I know he was busy, but what I need is for him to send me a short text at least every other day so I know he’s okay, and occasionally thinking about me. So far we’ve managed to chat at least twice a day.
In between all this I’ve been planning for a major project this weekend at work – the best time to work on IT stuff is when no one else is working after all. Just wrapped that up thankfully; because I intend to sleep more than 4 hours tonight and then take the youngest to a festival a town over tomorrow. Should be fun! The older kids are going to be home later and we’re going to BBQ in the evening.
I hope everyone has a great weekend!
