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I didn’t mean it like I am afraid of being alone, I’ve been alone before and it went great. I could be alone again, it’s not like I can’t take it.
But a relationship has to make your life better, not worse. And I feel like he has improved my life. My life is much better with him than without. It is just the communication.. Damn. We have talked about it and he wants to improve. He is the big brother, parents divorced at 9, dad left for another woman. At 9 he had to “take over” and be the man of the house. So, you get the picture. He can talk about his feelings when encouraged but other than that, remains quiet and never says anything until he has to.There was an apology and a promise to never do it again. That was after the whole conversation though. And, as always, a promise to start trying to communicate better. He is immature but he has come a looooong way.
I have thought of breaking up but I fear a life without him. He has brought so much into my life. So, when I think about ending things I almost always dismiss the thought quickly. However this time, I actually thought about it, and he knew what I was thinking.
I actually read about the four horsemen a while ago, and I know the silent treatment is not an option in a relationship.@sararosie, that is how I feel too, yet I have been in a relationship for almost two years. I see everyone getting engaged, married or having kids and sometimes I don’t see it close for us.
This last weekend we had a trip that I thought was awesome, but he decided to ruin it by giving me the silent treatment for the last hour of the drive back home. Then, yesterday we talked and he told me everything I did wrong during the trip, which made him explode during the last part. So, the trip was awesome for me and he says it was awesome for him too, but I did things he didn’t like and he reacted like a small child or a teenager. He is very immature sometimes which makes me think that we are far far away from that kind of stuff. Communication is very hard sometimes and I feel sometimes like we should just break up. But I don’t want to break up because in many ways, this has been the best relationship I’ve ever had. I keep telling him what he should do to communicate, that silent treatmeant and ignoring me and never wanting to discuss anything is not ok, but I’m also tired of telling him what to do.
My best friend is single and sometimes I feel jealous of that. And sometimes she feels jealous of me for being in a committed relationship. I guess one can’t have it both ways. It’s hard on both sides.And a breakup text on a monday morning at 6:15 a.m.? He just won the “get your head out of your ass award” of the week.
He probably knew he was taking the job before even leaving.
If I were you, I’d cut ties with him sooner rather than later. I’d block him on social media, email, etc. It’s not nice to go MIA on someone who he almost certainly knew was waiting for a response. Dickish move.
I’d respond to that text saying that he’d message you later with “I’d rather you didn’t. Have a nice life”. Because he’ll probably want to be friends after this and be the good guy and whatevs.What a pair of dicks. Both of them. Selfish idiots.
@MissDre mentioned how the guy facetimed her from airports and so. He is clearly pulling back. I imagine a pilot job in Middle East to be most likely UAE, Saudi Arabia or Qatar, some of the richest countries in the world, where there is most likely, wifi. If he used to facetime all of the time and now isn’t, that is weird. That being said, Miss Dre, I think you need to chill a little bit and stop over analyzing everything and waiting for him to reach out.
I once dated a friend of mine, we had been friends for two years and we started dating. A month into casually dating he got a scholarship to do his PhD in Europe. He proceeded to tell me that he had been offered the scholarship and then he dissappeared. A couple weeks later he told me he had taken it. So, he ghosted me, and he WAS my friend, we were close. We are still friends anyway, but what I mean is that anyone can do that, even someone who is close to you.
Also, my best friend started dating a guy who introduced her to her friends on the second date, made plans for a trip overseas on the same date. They texted every day, good morning, good night, calls. He reduced a lot of the talking and blamed it on being sick/tired/too busy. What happened? He realized things were going too fast and pulled on the brakes really hard. I don’t know why but it happens. People do this all the time, being 20, 30, 40.
@MissDre honestly this all sounds like too much to take at only two months dating. Sorry the timing seems to be off right now.
Also, @veritek I had my first back injury about 2 to 3 months after I started crossfit. I think it was because of the poor for I had performing some exercises. That first one was really bad and painful. It was my lower back, and I was doing deadlifts. I realized that my core was very weak, so I tried to develop core strenght. I recommend you do the same. I’ve had back pain just two more times in 3 years and these have never been as bad as the first one. So, get that core strong. Also, get a lifting weight belt. These are awesome for those moves, I don’t care how much I am deadlifting, I always wear my belt and never got any more injuries.
I feel the same way as MissDre. I do have a boyfriend but my closest friend is currently dating, and every two or three months she meets some guy who is awesome and great and the one. For instance, she met a guy about two or three weeks ago on Tinder and started dating him. At first she told me about the guy: rich, handsome, successful, bussiness owner, only 30 years old, likes basically the same things she likes, and they are a match. I inmediately start thinking, sooo, where’s the catch? Why is a guy like this single? I am skeptical like that, when a guy is so awesome there’s got to be something.
Now, I see tons of red flags but she doesn’t see anything. For instance, he introduced her to his friends on the second date, and made her lie to them about how they met. Apparently, he didn’t want his friends to know that they met through Tinder, so he came up with a story that they met in College and they didn’t even attend the same one. They started planning a trip for the Desert Trip that is until October, on that same second date. He has told her he doesn’t want a relationship but promises that they will be together for a long time. Also, talks about his ex gfs as “crazy” and “gold diggers”, and also had one that was a very “hot model”.
In this case, the “catch” IMO is not manageable, the guy sounds like a dick. But sometimes the catch is something you can deal with, or learn to deal with, but there is always something, specially at our age (early 30’s).He was probably testing to see if you wanted to go. Or maybe he thought that by telling you that he was letting you know that you were invited. If you don’t want to ask him maybe bring the trip up sometime to see if he asks you again.
