AliceInDairyland
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So I asked The Boy last night about the name thing because I was super curious about what his views would be. And I felt sort of awkward about it (also sort of drunk) so I just kind of blurted out the question of asking his views on it. And he said that he would prefer to have the same name as his wife and children, but it totally didn’t matter whose name it was. And that he really didn’t care all that much about any of it. Because it is just a name. Awww. Sorry for the humblebrag, but I wasn’t sure what to expect after all of this discussion.
Dr. and Mr Dairyland it is!!!!!!!!
Sorry to pick on you GatorGirl, I think I just saw a couple comments to the effect of “I’m not a feminist or anything, I just want my last name.” You happened to be the most recent comment to that effect, so I was a cranky-pants and put down the definition of feminism. And if you agree with that definition, like it or not you are a feminist. I happen to like it.
And the awesome thing about it is, I GET TO CHOOSE WHAT I DO WITH MY NAME. And we can have these awesome discussions and tell these stories because we have that option now. Which I think is great, even if it makes things more confusing.
and @MMcG I have heard of this spanish naming system and it seems awesome. Except for the whole Alice In Dairyand Maryland thing. :-/ But if your name works with that system it is a great option.
PS Bethany… I seriously imagine you in my head as a Cat Pirate. Like you are saying things as a cat pirate named Bethany and it cracks me up no matter what you are writing about. 🙂
Feminism: the doctrine advocating social, political, and all other rights of women equal to those of men
Sorry, I get a wee bit frustrated when I hear this stuff about how women are/are not feminists. If you believe in equality and respect for both genders you are a feminist. I am a feminist, my boyfriend is a feminist. Although granted I haven’t asked him about this particular point I am now interested and I will write back when I figure out the answer.
I have struggled with this point a lot actually, and haven’t come up with a really great solution. I love my name, and have been referred to it relatively frequently instead of by my first name. It’s short and easy to spell. Also my entire life I have been waiting to be referred to as Dr. Dairyland (ooh, I actually wish that WAS my last name now). I don’t have anything published, but I am hoping to write as a veterinarian so once that happens I will probably be creating a name for myself.
However there is no way I could combine my name with my boyfriend’s, as they rhyme. Think Alice Dairyland Maryland. Ugh. So that rules out hyphen, combining, or even making it my middle name. Plus I love my middle name. I would consider having my boyfriend change his last name, but my name is very feminine and my dad and brother were both teased pretty badly for their last name. Plus he is an only child and his father was an only child so he is carrying his name.
I guess for me it comes down to when I get married in comparison to getting my degree, and then whether or not I really feel like I need to share my children’s last name. Or if the girls get my last name, and the boys get his. Or something. This is more complicated than I originally thought.
