jlyfsh
Forum Replies Created
-
Posts
-
That’s really too bad! Maybe if you’re in a position later on you could start your own group!
I know ktfran has mentioned meetup before but if you have one in your area just give it a try. That is how I met about 3/4 of my friends when I moved. I never would have joined a book club or done half the new things here I have without meetup.
I don’t think this is a pity party. The reality is if you’re in a bad place (like being depressed) all of the dating tips in the world won’t help you. Sometimes you have to take a step back and work on you. Maybe you’ve never dealt with an issue like that, but based on this thread alone it’s a reality for a number of people.
Reading your comments and Lianne’s thoughts it really comes across as you feeling like you have to get the power to make decisions in your relationships from the other person. If you are unhappy with where things are take back that control and decide to end things. I hope your therapist can help you navigate all of this. But, from the outside it doesn’t necessarily seem like something that can be dealt with while dating…Good luck and I hope you are in a better place soon.
Maybe before you try and answer that try and figure out where you see the relationship going? Not in a fairy tale way but in a pragmatic way. How long do you see yourself being happy being long distance, would you be willing to move if it came to that, think more about marriage and kids and decide for yourself whether it’s with him or someone else if you want those things.
I have to wonder if in the back of his head the distance and potentials for the future are also causing him not to be able to give a firm answer. Eventually though, you will have to come out and ask him where he sees this going. Your relationship is going to take more planning and effort than if you were dating someone 30 minutes away and could not worry with how long will the ldr portion be, is one of us going to move, etc.
And I know you didn’t ask for advice, just as an outside perspective looking it I could see that sort of putting an extra level of uncertainty in to his answers. And in to what I was thinking/feeling if I was in your shoes.
Yeah I agree with the other two, it seems like he was waiting for a response from you. I would just bring it up. Sound like too fun of a trip to miss.
I don’t think anyone is saying everyone has to wait to sleep with someone. Just that some people prefer to wait. There’s nothing wrong either decision, as long as you are happy with it. Everyone learns at what point in a relationship they are most comfortable having sex. There are times when people do sleep with someone too soon for them.
I think it’s probably a thing because it’s a specific platform. Like you might have watched a movie before but now you’re not popping in a movie. You’re watching Netflix. I don’t think it’s code for anything. Well not code for anything more than ‘watching a movie’ is. I’m sure sometimes it means having sex.
I’ve now been told I am old and married and apparently there is a ‘thing’ where Netflix and chill means sex. I just use Netflix as a verb in general because it’s how I watch tv!
I love Netflix and I’m over 30. We got rid of cable between that hulu and HBO Now.
A lot of people answered her question. The problem is there is no actual advice on how to make him act like she would prefer. He’s an adult and gets to make his own choices.
As often as you ask for advice you really dislike hearing anything you don’t agree with. Take a step back and think about the fact that you might just be wrong.
I’m not even going to try and reply to your last comments. But, you sound young and immature. You cannot force your boyfriend to do what you want. He knows you think he’s making mistakes. He’s an adult he gets to do what he wants. You are not his Mom. No one is going to give you advice on how to make him do what you think is the right way.
