carolann
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Ron is right it will be difficult to have that long of a name. When I divorced my first husband I wanted to use my first name, middle (because my first and middle name are used as my “first” name) and maiden hyphenated with my married last name. I had issue with the dmv/ss who said I could do whatever, but only so much would fit on my license.
Well, at least you haven’t gotten married or had kids together. I understand where you are coming from, but I think this is gods way (insert the higher power of your choice if you aren’t religious) of letting you see this man’s true colors before it gets any more serious. I have been through this and believe me it is much more serious(life changing and heart wrenching) when you have kids, property etc with someone. You should cut your losses and MOA…but you won’t listen and will continue to defend him because you think he is being a “good boy”. You will have to learn your lesson on your own. I promise you one day you will wonder what you ever saw in this creep and laugh about how stupid you were.
I think she should move on. If she really wants a child of her own and she misses the opportunity it will cause hurt and resentment that will tear them apart eventually anyway.
You are right, being a step mother is not the same thing. I am a step mother, but my role is not the same as his bio moms.For your info KATE. I have lived in the ghetto for most of my life until recently.Most of the people here(well,there because I am no longer there) believe that most of the people going on and on about racism are privileged whites who know very little about it and do very little to help. When is the last time you were in the ghetto doing anything to make it better? Btw, I am white, but my niece is black and I have two cousins who are black. Their dad was killed when they were little because of being in the wrong area at the wrong time. They do not care for the neighborhoods they are in.(most of the crime here is black on black crime, so they do not want to be out at night either)They know how bad it is, but it is hard to ever be able to save enough to move anywhere better. The nicer areas of Atlanta are becoming more and more expensive.
I can’t tell you how many times I have personally dodged gun fire. At the grocery store, at the gas station (twice) and several other places. And each time it was during the day!
My husband lived in New York (he is 3rd gen Italian from the Bronx) before he met me and moved down here. He worked in sales and one of his areas was Bed Stuy. He told me he always had to head back before dark. He said even his emt friends had to dodge bullets because the people who shot the people would shoot at the people trying to save them. That is not prejudice, that is self preservation. That is why the LW’s state trooper boyfriend was trying to warn her.Actually they called certain areas of Poland the ghetto also.
Btw IN the ghetto most ppl call it THE GHETTO and would laugh at your comments.
Even THEY know it is a bad place to be out at night. If you were to accidentally (or on purpose out of ignorance)find yourself in one of these areas alone at night and something bad were to happen to you.(very high chance it would in my local ghetto) They would say you deserved it for being there.
Most of the police officers here refer to it as the ghetto. Yes, the AA officers too…as they walk backwards to their cars.
They would also tell you to get yo ass inside before something very bad happens to you.I use the term ghetto all the time.(I have lived in the ghetto.) I don’t consider it stereotypical, but factual. It was originally an Italian term used to describe Jewish areas in Italy. Sorry, if I am not PC enough for you. There are definitely areas of Atlanta you do NOT want to go out to dinner in. Not if you’re not packing. (Olive Garden on Memorial Drive for example)I wouldn’t go there at noon.
I was thinking Celine and Rene too!
I don’t want to seem negative or rude, but the age difference seems way too much to me. This is just my personal opinion. I have had a relationship with a large age difference BUT I draw the line when they are old enough to be my Daddy. That just grosses me out. More than 15 years or so is just too much to me. I have had several close male friends in that age group(still do) and one of them loved being with younger women. I think it was less about the woman themselves and more about how they made him feel. He wasn’t famous, but he was very well off, very well connected and owned several properties in NYC as well as other areas of New York. He loved dating woman who earned much much less and showing them the NY(and the world)they would never have been able to afford.(me too, but we never dated) None of his relationships ever worked out for very similar reasons.(I am referring to him in the past tense because he recently pasted away suddenly at the age of 65)He was a beautiful person, but restless and always looking for the next adventure.
I don’t think your boyfriend is going to change his direction in life. I think he is too old to change and probably doesn’t want to. Not for anyone.
I think eventually this relationship will fizzle out and hopefully you two can remain friends.
