Cleopatra_30
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I had a guy text me the next morning saying thanks for dinner and nice to meet you. No offer of a second date. So I suggested a second date and he never answered my request, instead talked to me for two more days till he faded out. Men are weird. I went out with a guy on Monday and he texted me after I got home and said he wanted to see me again. So he texted me within the hour. If I am interested in seeing the guy I usually text that evening or the next morning. So the ball is in your court just as much as it is in his. You both made the committment to meet up and both have the reaponsibility to indicate whether you want to see the other again. Don’t let rejection get to your head. It happens often and you just need to let it roll off your back. Otherwise you will never move forward. Don’t take it personally. You can’t expect every person you go out with to like you and vice versa.
I think the notion of flipping through profiles and having these casual encounters with no real commitment has people taking dating, or any form of it, seriously. People are rushing around and not taking the time to commit to the dating scene, and it seems to show with the lack of respect, courtesy, and communication we all seem to be seeing. Maybe not in all cases, but for the most part the pattern is there.
I think this is sounding like a bullet dodged
@kate I agree. When she shared that about him it raised some warning flags for me. I have seen many guys’ profiles with the statement of ‘no drama’ ‘no games’ etc and I avoid those. Just off putting that they generalize that and also assume most women are like that. Kind of like the ‘nice guy’ syndrome.
Ya I don’t know. You could always follow up with him tomorrow and ask how his long weekend was and if no response by the end of the day probably safe to say he is fading out. I mentioned a while ago when I was going out with a guy (2 dates and 3 weeks total) he had suggested bringing me to a friend house warming and when I told him I couldn’t due to previous plans I suggested something for the following week. Didn’t hear from him for 2 days (typical with him unfortunately), and then did a follow up text, and to this day never heard from him! He seemed like a nice guy, really interested in seeing me, but ya un fricken predictable!
I think it is the year of the ghost!I am kind of shocked at the pattern of ghosting and repeating dating scenarios here :S I really hope things turn up for everyone!
If anyone recalls, I wrote in about the guy who ghosted me twice back in January, well he popped up again a couple weeks ago when I was on a ski trip. He texted me as if everything that happened before never happened. He was looking to go out with me and I shut him down and had to actually explain why I wasn’t interested. He didn’t seem to think his actions were wrong, he said
(after I told him that he was only contacting me when it was convenient for him) why would he contact me if it was inconvenient? (blaming being busy for work). WOW. Yes I never would have rescheduled with him, but his blatant disregard for the entire situation was appalling. After my explanation he stopped talking to me 😛 I understand being busy with work, but falling off the face of the earth for an entire month isn’t right and then coming back hoping for redemption.I have honestly never had such terrible luck with guys until these past few months. Ghosting, rudeness, and just lack of quality guys. Gah. I am almost giving up. Had a good date though with a guy this Saturday. We went to Chapters and browsed the books and had some really good conversation. We went for a late lunch afterwards and then planned a second date at the city science centre for the following Saturday. (They have a Star Trek exhibit, so being nerds and both never been to the science centre in the city are taking advantage of the timing).
The beans are an aphrodisiac right?! 😛
@veritek33 That is so awesome! Congrats on the job 🙂
I ended up cancelling my plans for today. Would have been the 3rd date with a guy, but I had more time to think this weekend and finally decided I wasn’t into him as much as I should be. I was kind of dreading the date cause we were gonna go to his place for dinner and a movie, and there would have been a good opportunity to lay some moves on me and I just couldn’t see myself being enthusiastic about that. So made the decision to end it now. He was a nice guy just insecure and kind of built up our dates too much, which was a turn off.
So for tonight I am doing a weight lift, ordering pizza, watching the new walking dead episode and eating peppermint patties. Good times if you ask me!
I have two dates this week though. A sushi date in the city Thursday and a Chapters date on Saturday! Both seem like cool dudes, so I hope they work out.
Also, isn’t Pi Day March 14th? 3.14?
oooh TO isn’t that bad! haha I am from the greater toronto area, the winter has been better this year than in the last 6 or 7 years. More snow, but the city is awesome! I hope he gives you a good tour. Lots of neat things to see and eat 😀
I am glad to hear everyone is enjoying their dates. Seems I am getting all the crap luck on my end. None of my dates have lead anywhere, and the guys on Tinder and Bumble seem to never respond. The guy I went out with a couple weeks ago informed me due to his schedule (he is going to LA periodically for the next couple months for work. We are in Alberta) that it may be difficult to keep something going. Which I predicted as he had mentioned the LA thing the first time we met, and then due to our busy schedules haven’t had a second “date.” He said he wants to keep chatting and see me when he can, but idk. I told him I have no issue talking still but only if it is genuine interest, not that obligatory kind cause we went out once and have been talking for a couple weeks. Also suggested that he could contact me once the dust settles and see if I am still available. Waiting for a reply now…
Haha ya it really varies person to person it seems 😛
The reason I was going use online dating sites was from my past experiences with them. I met three guys whom I dated, one was long term, the other two I am now friends with. I felt I made better connections and the guys were more upfront about what they wanted. Granted it has been a few years since I have used online, so maybe things have changed. I also used Tinder for a while off and on, primarily hooking up, and had way more success that way. Maybe using it for dating will be an option now?
