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That’s great news, Anon!
@hfantods If what you’re using works for you, no point in switching things up! I only made the change because my eyes started stinging. Supergoop came out with different shades of glow screen, so it might be the reformulation that isn’t sitting well with my eyeballs. I never had issues before. I like their everyday lotion because it’s not as heavy, greasy, or sunscreen-y as other sunscreens. The one LRP sunscreen I tried was also a derm rec and it worked great, but I didn’t like how thick it was. We used it in the Utah desert and I didn’t burn but my dry skin pilled off every time I reapplied.For books, I’ve read a lot of just okay stuff lately. The one book I’ve read recently that I liked is The Heart’s Invisible Furies. I’m currently reading I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai, who authored one of my all-time faves, The Great Believers. We’ve been watching The Bear on Hulu.
What My Bones Know is on my TBR list.
From what I understand, mineral sunscreens are the way to go to prevent eye irritation if you’re sensitive. I used glow screen for literal years and never had an issue until this summer. Even Trader Joe’s has a glow screen dupe that’s well liked! This Alastin sunscreen is the only mineral one I’ve tried that doesn’t leave a white cast… but then again, it’s tinted. I’ve seen on TikTok some women mixing it with Drunk Elephant sunshine drops for a dewy/glowy finish. I’m sure there’s a dupe for the sunshine drops at the drug store I can try. Should I ever find myself in a position to try a bunch of European and Asian sunscreens, I’ll be all over that… better filters, better finishes.
I haven’t tried Typology yet! I’d been using Supergoop Glow Screen with Saie Slip Tint for maybe two years or so, but I’ve been noticing as the weather gets hotter that Supergoop runs into my eyes when I sweat, and it stings. So instead of repurchasing Glow Screen when I ran out, I most recently purchased Alastin’s tinted sunscreen, which is my dermatologist’s recommended tinted sun protection. It’s a mineral sunscreen (Supergoop is chemical), which I guess means it shouldn’t irritate my eyes and protects against blue light as well. It’s a really nice product that replaces both the sunscreen and tinted moisturizer, though doesn’t have the same glowy finish I’ve gotten used to. My one complaint is that I already know it won’t be a good color match for my pale winter skin.
I’ve brought up some messed up situations from my teens and 20s in therapy over the past couple years, where I’ll feel deeply sad about behavior from family or partners that I endured or sometimes simply accepted when I didn’t have to. And I’ll also be incredulous because 30-something Copa would NEVERRR. My therapist said she sees a lot of women in their 30s come to this point. I think the situations that impact us deeply usually take years to makes sense of. I recently listened to the book What Happened to You? on audiobook, and found it pretty interesting — it’s a not-overly-clinical book about the effects of childhood trauma on the brain, and looking at others through the lens of what happened to them vs. wtf is wrong with you.
I’m not a great sleeper, so I will sometimes rely on an edible with low but equal amounts of THC, CBD, and melatonin to help me stay asleep. I am also someone who pretty frequently remembers dreams, which are often kind of dark. I still have the occasional weird dream about an ex-boyfriend from the mid-2010s — the breakup was messy and I was not okay after. The dreams always follows a similar pattern — he’s blatantly ignoring/avoiding me in each — but aren’t identical. I can usually identify the real-life trigger, though. Like it happened a couple times this past winter after my iPhone was like, “Hey, remember way back when?” and presented me with a slideshow of photos that have to be on the Cloud cause they’ve long been deleted from any devices.
Anyway, sorry you’re having those dreams. Hopefully they don’t mess with you in your waking life. Some people really stick with us, I guess.
ETA and very off-topic: I just bought some one-size-allegedly-fits-all underwear from Nordstrom because it’s part of the Anniversary Sale and I was just too curious.
The new site looks great!
I’m glad you’re on the mend, @Anonymousse! FWIW, I don’t think you’re vain to mourn a change in your appearance. It’s your face!!
@Anon I think I was out of town when you mentioned needing surgery but I’m glad it went well! Anticipating surgery is stressful so I’m sure it’s nice to put it behind you.
Both of those books are on my list!
I’m looking forward to seeing the new website!
It’s fine that I didn’t get the job! If I’m a finalist for a job I do tend to look online later to see if I can find who got it. Sheer curiosity. Just kinda interesting to see that I was not imagining this guy having an attitude toward me. I assume he was the one doing the heavy lifting after the departures that created the vacancies I interviewed for, without the extra pay or recognition, so can’t say I blame him.
Also. When I interviewed for the job I posted about in April or so, I felt during my panel interview that one of my interviewers was kinda salty toward me in his line of questioning. I wondered if he’d thrown his hat in the ring for the job I was interviewing for and been rejected, or whether I was completely misperceiving tone. He ended up getting the job, though at a lower level than what had been posted. Makes sense to promote internally and I believe what’s meant for me won’t pass me by, but kind of feeling like they could’ve promoted the guy without making me interview with so many folks.
Very specific, but has anyone tried the brand Typology? It’s a French skincare brand, but they sell tinted face serums and lip oils that I’m curious about.
I’ve never heard that you shouldn’t wear black to a wedding! I’ve seen it many times. I’ve done it before. Especially if it means wearing something you already have in your closet vs. buying something new.
I’ve been doing Nuuly and both weddings I went to in June were formal. I wore the same rented dress twice. I loved it! It was supposed to be midi length, but on me, it was a maxi dress. I debated buying it so that I could alter the straps instead of pinning them, but decided against it. I don’t have a single wedding on the horizon after last weekend.
Semi-speaking of weddings, my company has been talking about getting us all new professional headshots. Our HQ office did it, but my office hasn’t yet. Well, maybe two weekends ago, we were at a wedding and my hair looked amazing. I used Canva AI to turn a group photo from that wedding into a professional headshot for free. It’s not perfect — I’d still like a professional one — but it’s pretty good and the technology is so cool IMO.
Omg. Peggy. I am so sorry that happened to your sister, and that your family had to deal with that. It’s awful. I think going into 2021, there were some new transparency laws for healthcare systems that went into effect that compelled hospitals to make public costs and almost all were like, nah, we’d rather not. And then they simply didn’t, and somehow that’s okay.
Even my appendicitis — one of the most common surgeries out there — was a six-figure ordeal. I don’t know what I’d have done if I hadn’t had good insurance.
I’m back from my trip and had a great time. The solo portion was fun, but different. I loved doing what I wanted when I wanted. I was seated fairly quickly at a couple popular restaurants — including a Michelin-starred one — because I was alone. It’s also a confidence boost to navigate a new city alone on public transit. I wouldn’t say I felt lonely, but it was different to not have anyone to share the experiences with.
I logged into work pretty early today on account of the jet lag and I’m already enraged, haha. Currently trying to stand my ground over a deadline that was moved up a week while I was OOO, which wouldn’t be a problem if the manager moving the deadline up had communicated things to me properly earlier this month. I even sent an email about something I needed from him a couple weeks ago and received no response!
I’m creeping up on the end of the Ireland portion of my trip. I’ve had a great time! My friend’s wedding was SO much fun. I’ve loved being able to experience new wedding traditions. There were a couple that I found funny, like they sit on the floor in a line to do a “dance” to the song Rock the Boat. (I’ve never seen the show Derry Girls, but I guess this happens on the show and it’s a real thing. Should the show also show men rolling up their pant legs and tying their ties around their heads at weddings, that is also a real thing.) It made me LOL. But my favorite was that the night ends with everyone singing together. We left and 3 a.m. and the party kept going for a couple more hours.
The solo-ish portion of my trip begins tomorrow. Curious how that will be! I have my own hotel room tonight and after a handful of days of nonstop companionship/getting around in a duo or small groups, I am happy to have some time and space to myself. A little nervous TBH!
@ktfran re: hospital procedure costs. I had an endoscopy maybe two months ago. Even with insurance, the cost was still stupid expensive. Our reimbursement plan that works in conjunction with our insurance plan covered most but not all of that cost. And it was frustrating because I was able to get a diagnosis for an issue that has been ongoing/worsening for years, but there’s no real treatment offered outside of medication. So the diagnosis almost feels irrelevant and like I paid NWM to tell me, “This is what’s wrong with you… good luck with that!”
@Anon Hope you’re improving! I’ve had a few surgeries and every last one has freaked me out. The head surgeon is who I’d want working on me!!
