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So BG and I move into the new place on Tuesday. I’m excited but a little nervous and overwhelmed. Late last week we thought we might have to push it out because of a delay from BG’s lender. Work is super busy so I hate having to take time away from work to move. I’ve spent the vast majority of this weekend packing and I’m always shocked by how much stuff I own, even though in the past year or two I’ve done some serious purging. Yesterday I took three trash bags of clothes to donate, as well as quite a bit of other miscellaneous items (books, DVDs, blankets). I need to do a second round tomorrow and know there will be more donations once we’re in the place and can better see how our items fit and what we might still have doubles of. I’ll still have my place through the end of the month so luckily I can deal with the final cleaning on another weekend. Anyway, ready to get this show on the road.
@MoneyPenny I think I remember where you are, and my dad’s entire family is still out that way. I’d love to be able to spend time there and be able to see my extended fam in a socially distanced setting. And I’ve thought about it. But the idea of flying makes me pretty uncomfortable and that’d be a pretty tedious drive. So, highly unlikely. But I love the idea of it.
ETA: My family owns a cabin in a resort-y, forest-y area out there and I feel like they’d be able to hook us up if I found a safe way to get out there.
Also, sorry to hijack back to COVID, but wanted to add: @ktfran To be clear, I didn’t think you and your husband are part of the problem! Just in general, I side eye a lot of the people heading south in the winter during the pandemic. I totally understand wanting more space, sunshine, and outdoor access this winter, but have been on the fence about whether it’s right for us and wonder if we’ll be judged for it even though we’d not be going anywhere to live it up. As it stands, most states with warm weather in the winter are states that I wouldn’t particularly care to be in during COVID times. I have also thought CO might not be bad in Feb or March, even though they also have cold and snow, because of the sunshine and year-round outdoor options. But, we’ll see. We were planning to keep an eye on how things progress in different areas and decide later.
As a side note, BG traveled quite a bit for work for probably 10 years and this was his first winter staying put in Chicago in a long time. He’s from the suburbs originally but was still shocked by how dark, grey, and cold it gets, and how hard January and February can be. He asked if it was usually like this and I told him this past winter actually felt milder than most.
Congratulations, @veritek!
I thought it was ridiculous that people were flocking to Florida back in March and April. A lot of them were going from hot spots and I was like, good grief, you can’t just stay put? I imagine areas with nice weather in the winter months will see another influx of people this winter, and I don’t trust the vast majority to simply stay inside when they do that.
I wouldn’t even go to an outdoor event of 50 people, let alone an indoor one of 150. I saw on the news that there’s a couple somewhere in NY that took their fight over their 175-person wedding to court. And just… COME ON.
BG and I did go away for one night this weekend and overall had a nice time. It was originally supposed to be a longer trip, but once our moving plans started to take shape, I wanted to cancel because I thought we should curb our spending leading up to the move. We ended up changing destinations and shortening it to an overnight. Probably not worth the stress but it was a good time. I’m hoping we can reschedule something similar to our original plan in maybe October — we won’t be able to swim, but the weather should still be nice enough to enjoy some time away. I also told him that I’d be up for considering some kind of warm weather rental somewhere this winter even though last spring I was pretty annoyed by the people who did that.
Off subject a bit, but someone who viewed my apartment put in an application with the management company to take over my lease! I’m very excited. Something like 80% of the people who have expressed sincere interest in seeing my place have set up a time to see it, either in person or virtually, and then not shown. And they don’t even bother giving notice. Which is so rude and frustrating. But assuming this guy is approved my management, I’m hoping he’ll sign the lease paperwork by early next week so I can focus on everything else that needs to happen in the next few weeks leading up to moving day.
Yeah, I was surprised by my coworker’s choice and think it was the wrong one. The original venue gave her an out and she chose not to take it.
That said, I do feel for people like Veritek who made decisions that felt like they’d be fine based on the information available to them at the time, only to end up stuck between two shitty options.
I know another couple that had a destination wedding planned for July. That obviously didn’t happen. They cannot get a refund on what they’d already put down ($10K+), but the earliest it’s looking like they can reschedule is late 2021 or early 2022. They’re going to do a courthouse ceremony instead, which they’re fine with, but they did want a party at some point and they don’t really have the money to plan something new if they can’t get their money back.
She ended up having the wedding two weekends ago at a different venue that WOULD accommodate her. In March, when they originally pushed out the date, I can absolutely see that people didn’t know how things would play out. I thought August was ambitious for a big event, but in March I also naively thought I’d be back in the office before summer was over. By the time they had to find a new venue for August, I think it was pretty clear they should’ve had a courthouse wedding or small, family-only ceremony and postponed the party a second time. But they didn’t.
Also, FWIW, I don’t think it was irresponsible for you guys to plan for a late fall re-do back in March. What we know has changed a LOT since then. One of my coworkers did something similar, rescheduled her May wedding for August at the same venue. When that decision was made, both my coworker, her now-husband, and the venue thought maybe by August things would feel normal. Obviously that hasn’t happened. The venue ended up canceling on them in June and she had to go from there.
I wouldn’t give up on hope that they might have to let you out of your contract. I know it’s different, but my company was supposed to have our annual June conference in MO. In late March/early April, the venue said no to letting us out of the contract. So we played a waiting game and eventually they canceled on us (which is what we wanted). Anyway, I’m sorry this is the situation you guys are in — it’s shitty — and hope you will be able to either recoup your money or push it out into sometime in 2021.
I think my dad’s side of the family — his many sister’s, their spouses, my cousins — will be excited for me. I haven’t told any of them yet, waiting until we’re officially in the new place together. Might send a cheesy picture of us by the SOLD sign to my family group chat next month, haha.
In apartment lease takeover news, the guy with many questions who toured my apartment yesterday is interested in applying and I’m feeling relieved! Still going to show the place to someone else tomorrow and one of last weekend’s flakes reached out again to schedule another time to see the place, but feeling cautiously optimistic right now.
@Cleo I’m sorry, that sounds very frustrating. I can appreciate that people can get busy with work — been there! — but no availability at ALL for six weeks seems a bit odd? I’d be frustrated.
@veritek Could you guys postpone until 2021? I think fall is going to be weird and even if your friend’s job had different rules, there may still be a lot of people uncomfortable going to that kind of event this fall.
One of my friends booked a trip to Japan for April 2021 and I admire her confidence that travel will be an option by then. I’m not as sure. I lived there during middle and high school and wanted to go this fall with BG to show him one of the places I grew up and whatnot, but obviously that’s not happening now. I’ve wondered myself if spring would work but I don’t feel sure about that at the moment.
