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I wouldn’t do it. The couples I know who are unmarried but living together in a home that is owned, the deed is only in one person’s name (the person who bought it while still single/before they lived together).

Anecdotally, an old coworker of mine owned a house that she bought while she was single. She didn’t want to sell her house and purchase a new one with her then-boyfriend unless he proposed. He was dragging his feet on a proposal for the entire two+ years we worked together. She sold her house and bought with him anyway. They broke up not too long after moving into their new, shared house. It was a mess, legally and emotionally. And they were stuck living in the house together hating each other for a bit.

At this point, I don’t see the point in a burner account for Tinder and Bumble. Tinder used to require you to include occupation info, but at some point stopped with that. Unless things have changed since when I was actively dating (less than a year ago), it’s now at your discretion how much information you choose to include aside from your name and age.

I also used to search for my dates online to quickly verify that they are who they say they are. LinkedIn was always the best way to do this.

Where/how do you have to use your real name on Match? It’s been a long time since I’ve used OKC, and I wasn’t on it for long, but I’ve been on Match a couple times over the years and as recently as a year ago. They didn’t require it then and I’m curious how they’d require it now. Is it now a required field in your profile? Maybe you could do a nickname or something like just your first initial? Definitely seems like a safety issue.

Oh man. I participated in the debauchery. BG and I had fun with his friends out in the suburbs and decided to take a later train home… but this also meant we skipped dinner, which I’m sure you all know is a terrible idea when drinking all day… and then decided to go to one of my friends’ parties after getting off the train. So, I’m pretty hungover today.

I really like a lot of BG’s friends and their SOs, but met one yesterday that I didn’t like very much. He asked me if I drink in a way that felt oddly judgmental. I had a drink in my hand so I asked, jokingly, what kind of question is that!? And he clarified by basically asking if I’m a heavy drinker because he is, he said. Then at one point when BG was grabbing my coat, he said something about BG like, “What a weird guy. Don’t you think he’s such a weird guy!?” I was surprised by the comment, it was completely unprompted (BG wasn’t doing anything even a little weird), and it made me pause before saying “no” very flatly. And he seemed blown away by my education. And at one point made a comment about how good I looked. IDK, every interaction with this guy felt off-putting. I wasn’t a fan. BG mentioned he seemed agitated and I guess at one point was fighting with his fiance at one of the bars (I didn’t see this), so maybe I caught him on a bad day.

St. Patty’s is a scene in Chicago! Downtown is a bit of a shitshow with drunks everywhere. If you’re a person who loves St. Patty’s, you’d probably enjoy it. It’s crowded, but they dye the river green and it’s always nice to see the city come to life as winter starts to die down. A couple years I’ve been here have been sunny and temperate enough to ditch the puffer coat for the day. (Two years ago it was fuh-reeeezing.) I have done St. Patty’s the Chicago way a couple times, but I could take or leave it. I don’t really “get” St. Patty’s, even though I am part Irish, and I’d sit tomorrow out if my boyfriend’s friends didn’t have traditions that he enjoys participating in.

Will keep your mom in my thoughts, @Veritek!

Yes! I’m a little bummed they asked me to work tonight because I’ve seen him once in the past (almost) four weeks! So if he comes he’d have to spend at least a little time flying solo while I’m checking people in… but it’d just be nice to see him at this point. We have dinner plans tomorrow night, too, and St. Patty’s plans on Saturday. Not sure exactly how his jetlag is hitting him but when I came home from CT the time change was similar and it took me a solid 4-5 days to stay up past 9. So if he opts out tonight or we do the early bird dinner tomorrow, not a big deal. I know we’ll see each other more regularly moving forward, and we’re trying to find a good weekend to spend in NYC together since he has two work weeks in a row that will be out that way.

ETA: To answer your question, he’s heard about my coworkers and about our volunteers, who can be quite a crowd to people watch. Tonight’s event isn’t as mingle-y or small talk-y as some (and technically our sister company’s event), which is why I was hoping I could bring him.