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@Ron – mine is blue. Please try to remember it as clearly it’s a big deal to me. 😉
I agree with @Kate that if something IS a big deal to you, then you need to discuss it with a long term partner. Smoking is a deal breaker for me. Someone who wasn’t pro-choice would be a big deal to me (let’s not debate this). Someone who was fervently another religion would have been a big deal if I’d planned to have kids.
I guess I just think sex worker use is fairly unlikely to come up in an organic way in conversation. I saw your examples, Kate, but they seemed pretty situational. I think for many people, you’d have to try and have that conversation intentionally. I would, at least.
I’m amazed at the number of people who have had the conversation with their partner about their sexual past. We had the “Have you been tested/When was your last partner/You use condoms, right?” conversation early. However, most of the sexual past information I have has come out of regular conversation like, “Oh I dated someone who liked that show” or “M was allergic to lima beans!” It hasn’t occurred to me to give him a sexual past interrogation. I don’t know if he’s visited brothels. I do know the number of partners from a weird buzzfeed quiz we took once where he got my favorite color wrong. That upset me more than his “number,” so maybe I’m weird.
I’m not sure how I’d feel about it if it turned out R had visited brothels in the past. I guess it would depend on the situation – were they legal, etc. I do think the LW needs to get some counseling with her husband. He may feel safer talking about this in a more neutral setting.
I used to love to use the ricer as a kid – that was always the job I fought my sister for when we were helping in the kitchen. I need to make some of these mashed potato recipes and try them out.
Sarah, please don’t quit us. I find you fascinating. I’m glad you didn’t date the shady boss. Did you find someone else? Are you in a good relationship now?
I will have to drive by our GC and see if there’s a waitress banging on the windows yelling for her manager to leave his wife and come be hers. Or maybe sitting on the stoop muttering, “But anything can happen. ANYTHING!” over and over.
Our Golden Coral just closed last week. Maybe that’s the one where Sarah B worked and she hasn’t posted because she and the manager ran away together.
