dmarie

The reason I think you have to do this is because you said you would.
If you had said no from the beginning and stuck with it, you would have been fine but backing out on her now is pretty bad. I do think in general people are more willing to go out of the way for people who go out of the way for them though.

I have done a ton of babysitting and now have 3 of my own and in general I’d always go for the overnight. Some kids are exceptions of course but most 2 year olds go down between 7-9 and get up maybe once. Find out from your sister what the favorite shows are and youtube them if you need to to calm any tears and make sure to make it seem super fun. And mom tip, 2 year olds totally can’t tell time so if you feel really flustered you can put them to bed 15-20 min early and they will never know. We still pull this with my kids on NYE. Like OMG its the new year (….at 10 pm) I hope everything works out for you and next time just tell her no if you’re really uncomfortable.

So I hope this isn’t like really, real. But yes if she wanted to explain she would have. My first BF broke up with me only saying lets just be friends. That was it. I was surprised, it came out of nowhere for me but he didn’t owe me anything more and I didn’t pursue it.

I was in an LDR for all of college to my now husband, so obviously not interested in dating, but most people I saw casually didn’t really know about him. People would take my being nice as interest and ask me out. No was never a good enough answer and it was frustrating. People would straight up be annoyed I didn’t bring my BF up in like a 10 min conversation. Apparently, shockingly I have a life outside of my relationship.. The worst was a guy who asked me to dance at a club. I said no. A few weeks later BF was in town and we were dancing. Dude straight up asked why I wouldn’t dance with him like that. What the hell do I even say to that?

This is why women get touchy about constantly needing to explain themselves. We deal with this ALL THE TIME. You can want an explanation. That’s normal. But you don’t have a right to ask for one anymore then I did when my BF broke up with me at 14. And FYI he was cheating on me so the whole thing worked out better for me anyway.

Yea I don’t think she needed to go. You don’t make fake oaths. It demeans the process to anyone who cares and goes against her beliefs and no one should be make to declare something they are against.

He was a total a-hole about how he went about this. Without knowing what you discussed before it seems like you didn’t talk about this enough and didn’t come to a firm choice on how to handle your children and religion. It’s easy enough before kids but after 2 people of different faiths really need to be on the same page and your communication here was awful. Other issues stated after the first post really indicate that this relationship cannot work without major changes on his part that he doesn’t seem willing to make so make sure to protect yourself and your child. And in this relationship or others make sure to really talk about how you plan to raise your kids. If something is deal breaker then don’t be afraid to determine that a relationship isn’t for you.

FWIW I’m Christian and would never expect someone to be forced to participate in something like this and I’m actually kind of appalled at how he and your MIL steamrolled you. This was sneaky and manipulative and he is using his religion to justify his bad behavior (sadly an age old tradition) but it doesn’t so don’t fall for it.