Lyra
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GUYS. I just told Navy Guy about this thread and he agreed that we could make cinnamon rolls tonight! 😀
Anyone else have Taylor Swift’s “22” stuck in their head now? 😉
Ugh, that is indeed disgusting. 🙁 As othy said, no one wants to negotiate when grieving.
I’m also sorry about your dad, @mrmid. 🙁
The whole funeral industry also sounds like the wedding industry in terms of ripoffs. The moment I say “wedding” they seem to tack on a 20% “convenience fee” or something ridiculous like that. I can’t say “gathering” or “get together” because it’s VERY OBVIOUSLY going to be a wedding, and it ticks me off. I get that vendors and everyone needs tips and all that, but even our budgeted wedding is insane how much it’s going to be. I tried on a veil on Sunday that looked super cheap, and it was $100! I look on Etsy that night and found a GORGEOUS handmade veil for $50. It’s insane how overpriced things are.
1. Listen to your gut. Always.
2. It’s ok to kiss a lot of boys.
3. Break ups suck, but you learn a lot when you get through them.
4. It’s ok to move in with your parents for a year or two until you get your feet under you.
5. Start a retirement fund ASAP.
6. Floss.
7. Schedule your regular doctor’s appointments annually.
8a. Eat your veggies.
8b. But it’s ok to eat chocolate cake for dinner once in a while if you feel like it.
9. Breathe deeply.
10. Don’t compare yourself to others.
11. Tell the people in your life that you love them.
12. Call your mom.
13. Learn how to make at least one kick butt meal to impress house guests.
14. Crank up the music and dance when you do dishes — it makes it so much more enjoyable.
15. It’s ok to let go of old friends if they don’t feel like your friends anymore.
16. Always post classy pictures on Facebook — future employers will see them!
17. Learn how to dress for your body type.
18. There’s no “right” or “wrong” timeline for your life.
@Sarah, many of us are on this site a lot, and sometimes forum posts go on tangents like this. It’s really common.
Ok, here’s the deal with the whole “wait until the guy comes along” thing…your happiness has to come from within. A guy won’t magically make the depression go away and it won’t magically make things better. That happiness and acceptance HAS to come from you. I know how it feels to be rejected by guys so trust me, I get it, but you can’t sit around waiting for a man to make things all better. You will only be disappointed. Ultimately YOU are responsible for taking charge of it, whether that means going to therapy or taking antidepressants or whatever. And yeah in time a guy who is worth it may come along, but it isn’t a magic fix. The only thing that would change is you would be depressed and you would have a boyfriend.
I’m truly very sorry for what you go through Sarah, and I’m sorry you face depression daily. I don’t personally deal with it, but I know friends who do and I know it sucks.
If you’re ever down in the Cities let us know! 🙂 We’re overdue for a big MN meetup anyway…
Assuming you’re in the MSP area!
I’m in Minnesota too, that’s why I asked. 😉 You should totally join myself and Cassie and Sunshine Brite on a meetup sometime!
If you get anything from this thread, hear this: the only way you’re going to get help for anything is if you are open to suggestions. I say that as a compassionate person who genuinely wants to help. I’m saying this because SOMETHING led you here. SOMETHING triggered in your brain that there was an issue. I think you do want help, but the moment that people started giving advice that you didn’t want to hear, you closed yourself off to it and started calling people names. Things are just going to continue as they are if you only hear what you want to hear. I’ve been in that spot, only listening to what I wanted to listen to, so I know how it feels when it seems like people are ganging up on you. I also know how it feels on the other side, realizing that maybe, just maybe, it would have been beneficial to lend an open ear even if I had not wanted to hear what people were saying.
