Lianne
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Well tell him a stranger on DW is all for it ?
Omg ktfran. I LOVE that he will wear a tux. That’s fucking awesome.
I dress up too. Love being girly!
Look forward to it anyway. Put on a dress and go out and have a good time. You don’t need a man to do that. And the date will happen regardless. Just might not be on NYE.
See other thread on NYE pressure. You guys will go outagain. Don’t put pressure on the fact that it’s NYE!!!
And you’re not 26…I feel like at our age, this is a completely appropriate topic of conversation. And agreed on the topic of it being more general than with or two each other.
I think the kid thing is definitely something to know now. I would bring it up – I think you two are intimate enough that this shouldn’t be a big deal to have the discussion. A little different, because I knew I wanted kids, but I spoke with my husband about it about 3 or 4 months in – I knew it was going somewhere and wanted to make sure he wanted them, too, before we got too invested. Marriage, I felt more like you. I wasn’t sure I wanted that but the closer A and I got and the more serious, I wanted to marry HIM. I wonder if that’s why your feelings are changing?
Right. It’s a refreshingly different and honest perspective. I wish I’d had a voice like his in my life when I was letting the assholes get me down. The time I could have saved!!
I think what he said was that’s what most go on there looking for. Which for all we know could be true, but over time the hook ups have developed into more. Your relationship with your husband started as an FWB situation which is a similar scenario to what he’s describing.
Veritek don’t be so down on yourself. This was likely never going to be more to him. It would have been nice if he made that clear from the get-go, but don’t think it was YOU. it just wasn’t the right fit.
Jimmyjam is giving us a male’s perspective and one which I think is valid. Sure there are some guys on tinder looking for more, hence those of us with stories of friends finding long term love on there. However, I think there are still many, many guys out there using tinder JUST for hooking up. He’s entitled to think that and not get attacked for it. I think he’s just trying to give us all the other viewpoint. And not for nothing but, he read the situation with TT correctly.
Right, and you don’t have to go on 3 first dates in one week – that’s a lot for any person!!
I second that. Sometimes we have to do what might feel a little uncomfortable to break our patterns. It’s all a part of growing and being stronger individuals. It still may not be something that works for you, but I do agree with Kate in that it will probably help with early attachment and confidence building. This doesn’t mean you have to sleep with them all, either – though you can if you want to 🙂
