Lianne
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Yeah, that doesn’t bother me either, that he asked other people. He was stressed about it and wanted to know the best way to broach it. (FWIW, I concur about The Melting Pot…we had a $50 Groupon the first – and last! – time we went and we STILL had to pay over $50 on top of it. Ridiculous. It’s fondue!)
I would agree with Kate that I think the fact he didn’t pay for your ONE $5 beer to be thoughtless. If he couldn’t afford to do that, he could have only had 2 beers and then treated you. I wouldn’t say this is a deal breaker, and it may not be a big deal to you (though I suspect it’s at least a bit of a deal since you brought it up), but something I would keep my eye on, if it were me.
Actually, I should say FORTUNATELY for me, because I adore my husband and he is so right for me – even though I didn’t realize it right away.
Mucha, you just reminded me of a faux-lationship I had several years ago where that is what I did. I needed reassurances that he was into me, so would think of shit to text or call him about. Unfortunately for me, that didn’t end as well as yours did…I was way more into him than he was me, but he liked me enough to keep up the sex until he started dating the chick he ended up marrying, but the main point here is, it was about my insecurity. I look back at that me and wish I could have just chilled out and enjoyed it for what it was. My issue then was that I was always looking for “the one” and couldn’t see that most of these guys I tried to fit into that role were so fucking wrong for me! Hahahaha….
Anyway, Veritek, I think Mucha has some solid advice here!
And I think that is where people thought you might be freaking out ever so slightly. I get it – you like him! You want this to go well and don’t want to sabotage it. But at some point you need to do you and not worry about how he’s perceiving it. You are part of this relationship (or whatever you want to call it) too, and your needs are just as important as his. If you want to talk more, tell him that! If you’re ok with it, then don’t overthink it or worry about what others have done. This is YOUR relationship and it might not look like every other LDR there ever was.
Ok. When you mentioned that the texting cadence has diminished a bit, I wasn’t sure where your head was. Glad you’re chill! 🙂
I have to agree with what others have said, Ver. Even though it’s been a few months, it’s only been a handful of dates. I know you really want a relationship and you really like TT, but I think it’s best if you enjoy what you’ve got going on and see what happens. Once you both slow down in terms of the busyness of your lives, that will be a good time to see if the frequency of visits increase etc. In the meantime, I think it’s important to stay connected, be that via text or phone dates. I don’t think texting at least once a day and a phone date at least once a week is too much.
ugh, Kare…I am so sorry. I am pissed off at your shitty friend and her fiance all over again. I hope you can take it easy the rest of the day and do something good for yourself tonight – maybe a nice long walk or something active to get your blood moving.
Sounds like great dates/weekends for you both, LadyE and Ver! And now I want lasagna 🙂
Kare, that’s fucking bullshit. And by “that” I mean your friend not sticking up for you. If that were one of my friends and her husband, and she didn’t have my back and tell him in no uncertain terms that kind of “joke” is not ok, I would seriously reconsider the friendship. History or no, that is just way over the line and the amount of disrespect your friend has for your boundaries on the topic – and yes, even if she isn’t making the joke, it doesn’t appear she is reigning in her fiance – is just disgusting.
Re: the dick pick, I don’t think I would personally show that to a doctor. Since you’re planning to get re-tested soon anyway, what would the point be?
Kate – yes. I totally agree about things like that potentially turning me off. A and I texted a lot in the beginning and I remember feeling relieved that he texted the way I do – correct spelling, grammar, no shortcuts, etc. Not that it’s a deal breaker, but I am just anal about things like that. I have a friend that is a terrible speller, which is fine. But it irks me to no end when she constantly misspells people’s names. Like, seriously? Put some effort into remembering how people spell their names, girl!
Sorry to jump in late (I was with clients all day) but I tend to agree with everyone here. I can see wanting to take sex stuff slowly, but kissing?? That seems like a huge red flag to me. A kiss is such an important part of developing a relationship, I just CAN’T imagine going past 2-3 dates never mind 2 months. But if you’re really interested in seeing where this goes, LadyE, I would talk to him ASAP.
Lucky girl!!!
And I don’t think that’s tmi 🙂
40 is insane to me. I think you need to elaborate, Kare. Is it possible to do that without TMI??? Like, was it all at once? Over the course of a day? I just can’t imagine. And how did you count????
So happy for everyone having awesome dates, awesome sex, and multiple Os!!!
