Lianne
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I have to agree with what others have said, Ver. Even though it’s been a few months, it’s only been a handful of dates. I know you really want a relationship and you really like TT, but I think it’s best if you enjoy what you’ve got going on and see what happens. Once you both slow down in terms of the busyness of your lives, that will be a good time to see if the frequency of visits increase etc. In the meantime, I think it’s important to stay connected, be that via text or phone dates. I don’t think texting at least once a day and a phone date at least once a week is too much.
ugh, Kare…I am so sorry. I am pissed off at your shitty friend and her fiance all over again. I hope you can take it easy the rest of the day and do something good for yourself tonight – maybe a nice long walk or something active to get your blood moving.
Sounds like great dates/weekends for you both, LadyE and Ver! And now I want lasagna 🙂
Kare, that’s fucking bullshit. And by “that” I mean your friend not sticking up for you. If that were one of my friends and her husband, and she didn’t have my back and tell him in no uncertain terms that kind of “joke” is not ok, I would seriously reconsider the friendship. History or no, that is just way over the line and the amount of disrespect your friend has for your boundaries on the topic – and yes, even if she isn’t making the joke, it doesn’t appear she is reigning in her fiance – is just disgusting.
Re: the dick pick, I don’t think I would personally show that to a doctor. Since you’re planning to get re-tested soon anyway, what would the point be?
Kate – yes. I totally agree about things like that potentially turning me off. A and I texted a lot in the beginning and I remember feeling relieved that he texted the way I do – correct spelling, grammar, no shortcuts, etc. Not that it’s a deal breaker, but I am just anal about things like that. I have a friend that is a terrible speller, which is fine. But it irks me to no end when she constantly misspells people’s names. Like, seriously? Put some effort into remembering how people spell their names, girl!
Sorry to jump in late (I was with clients all day) but I tend to agree with everyone here. I can see wanting to take sex stuff slowly, but kissing?? That seems like a huge red flag to me. A kiss is such an important part of developing a relationship, I just CAN’T imagine going past 2-3 dates never mind 2 months. But if you’re really interested in seeing where this goes, LadyE, I would talk to him ASAP.
Lucky girl!!!
And I don’t think that’s tmi 🙂
40 is insane to me. I think you need to elaborate, Kare. Is it possible to do that without TMI??? Like, was it all at once? Over the course of a day? I just can’t imagine. And how did you count????
So happy for everyone having awesome dates, awesome sex, and multiple Os!!!
Thanks, hfantods!
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders about this situation. I would just continue to pay attention to your feelings and figure out if this is someone you see a future with. And I would also try to get to the heart of why he wants to be exclusive – really honest and open communication this early on can be hard, but I think it’s important to know. Like, does he just prefer to be with one person at a time, even when evaluating what the long term potential is? I just think it is a lot of pressure early and you are still in that evaluation phase.
Money, how was your date??
Gotcha! And yes, that conversation could absolutely be forthcoming! The only reason I think some of us are being cautionary, is because Veritek said it was a sour note/bad part. And if she’s feeling that way, it could be telling. But I could have misinterpreted how she meant it.
I have to agree with Kate on this point: “no guy or girl who’s really interested in someone is going to let 4-5 weeks go by before they see the person again. They’re going to find a way to get some face-time in.”
The only exception would be if they lived half-way across the country or if one of the two parties was going on an extended trip, etc.
And I speak from the point of view of someone who would give my ex boyfriend a pass when we were “on again” when he was “so so busy” and had no time to see me for weeks. I was an idiot.
Edited to say: I also would purposely not write into DW for advice because I know it would have been MOA 🙂
Get excited! Even if the date sucks, being excited is a much better way to approach it than with apprehension!
Yay, moneypenny! (And thanks for the birthday wishes :))
How did you meet him?
