Lianne
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Thanks, hfantods!
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders about this situation. I would just continue to pay attention to your feelings and figure out if this is someone you see a future with. And I would also try to get to the heart of why he wants to be exclusive – really honest and open communication this early on can be hard, but I think it’s important to know. Like, does he just prefer to be with one person at a time, even when evaluating what the long term potential is? I just think it is a lot of pressure early and you are still in that evaluation phase.
Money, how was your date??
Gotcha! And yes, that conversation could absolutely be forthcoming! The only reason I think some of us are being cautionary, is because Veritek said it was a sour note/bad part. And if she’s feeling that way, it could be telling. But I could have misinterpreted how she meant it.
I have to agree with Kate on this point: “no guy or girl who’s really interested in someone is going to let 4-5 weeks go by before they see the person again. They’re going to find a way to get some face-time in.”
The only exception would be if they lived half-way across the country or if one of the two parties was going on an extended trip, etc.
And I speak from the point of view of someone who would give my ex boyfriend a pass when we were “on again” when he was “so so busy” and had no time to see me for weeks. I was an idiot.
Edited to say: I also would purposely not write into DW for advice because I know it would have been MOA 🙂
Get excited! Even if the date sucks, being excited is a much better way to approach it than with apprehension!
Yay, moneypenny! (And thanks for the birthday wishes :))
How did you meet him?
Veritek, sounds like a great weekend – and happy birthday! 4 weeks is so. long. Especially at such an early stage where I am sure you both just want to see each other all the time. Did he have any creative suggestions for trying to see you sooner? Like, does the band take up the next 4 weekends ALL WEEKEND? Could you meet for breakfast half-way one of the weekend days or something?
Ktfran, I think you should absolutely say these things out loud, but if you need to warm up a bit, I think the note idea is cute.
Ohhhhhh…good for them.
Just so we’re clear, this “couple Kate knows” isn’t my husband and me. But I like that idea.
I wouldn’t change your plans around for a guy you just started dating @hfantods. If it doesn’t work out, you will be kicking yourself. Is it possible to do a date during the week?
Awesome, Veritek! Can’t wait for details.
