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Your photos looked great! So happy for you KTFRAN! have a great time in Portugal. love it there!

Have a safe flight and lots of fun!

Christmastime seems to be one of those assessing times. Similar thing in my situation too. It was more of a hypothetical discussion of what this is, are we happy, where is this going. HE was definitely more ready than I was, but for moving in and such i had said, if i’m moving in, i want marriage to be planned and/or right around the corner. The discussion came up because i needed to renew my lease and 6 months felt too short.. 1 year was a bit long, so we said.. okay, 9 months. by month 6 (Christmas), I thought about it more and said “okay i’m ready to plan something.” so we sat at a bar in January and planned out how we wanted to get married, what all that looked like, time line etc. Moved in together in May, married in June. Conversations were always with the mindset of this is where we hope it will go, but not always strict? until i was ready. so i get it.

excited to read about all the fun dates!!

Also, I’ve really really wanted to do Axe-throwing as well 🙂

Trixy: ugh i know that feeling. Definitely had a friend like that in high school that i was totally in love with, but.. he ended up dating this Freshman. Finally after years and years of back and forth and drama and just ugh.. we started to ‘see each other’ one summer i was home from college. It was intense, but not a match physically or really time wise. I ended up kinda throwing him away and returning to life back at college after summer ended. Unfortunately that was the end of our friendship too. but i understand that intellectual intensity. it’s so stimulating and intimate, but… when it’s not the whole package it’s like waiting to climax and being “RIGHT THERE” and then.. wahwah

Hawaiii!! yay that will be so fun, TheHizzy. We’re going the first full week of December

I’m so sorry to hear about the bust, LadyE 🙁

Also, things sounds fun, Copa! Hope they keep progressing 🙂 maybe at least you made some friends? (from his friends)?

My gramma and I just submitted our spit tests last week! Can’t wait to find out some ancestry and genetic stuff and see what is similar between the two of us!

One word for you: Gaslighting

I’m really sorry, Jessibel. If he does have any of that “good father/partner” at all in him, then counseling could help, but if he’s not, you’ll see if pretty quickly and at least be in counseling for support.

1) congrats on becoming a mother and getting to the one year mark
2) you have every right to fight for you health. Your partner should also be fighting for your health and safety.
3) you should not have to do this in a vacuum. Given that your husband has been not reliable.. DW and a counselor and some trusted friends will be your sounding board.
4) DW has been there for a lot of us during times were we’ve questioned sanity. Believe me, we would call you on it if you were being unreasonable. Instead, all this has done is thrown up giant red flags. As Wendy stated, we are all VERY concerned for you right now.