MaterialsGirl

Hey ktfran! You guys thinking of joining the club?

SOOO. I actually told my parents two weeks before. The reasons for this included that they had never met Radiostar, had not exactly been super supportive during the divorce, and weren’t really happy that I was dating him. My dad said that the timing was perfect because it was enough time for them to think about it, but not enough time to change anything. My mom had time to cool off and process. They have now since met him and we all had a really nice time and going up to Door County over Labor Day for a big family holiday.

His parents: Radiostar told his brother a few weeks beforehand and he was actually the one that seemed disappointed because he wouldn’t be able to do a speech, be there etc. We called his folks right after we had lunch post-wedding. I would definitely suggest having a wedding announcement (postcard) ready to go (just add a photo from the day) and have those printed while honeymooning so you can send them out to relatives and friends. His parents sent out a mass email to his extended family the day after we eloped so they were all in the loop. You just don’t want family finding out through facebook or something. Most of my close friends (and DW’ers obviously!) already knew our plans, so they were pretty supportive.

What I’ve come to find out is that most people really will want to celebrate with you in some way. We had an open house/bbq a month after we got married for Chicago friends. We’re going to have a pizza party reception for his extended family out in Westphalia on our 3 month anniversary. The night before, we’re taking out his parents, his brother and sister and their spouses, as well as his good friends and their parents from grade school/high school that are still in the St. Louis area for a nice dinner.

Another thing we’ve found? People want to give you presents even when you tell them you don’t want or need anything. So have a few ideas of useful items because for some reason, his mom is all about being fair and since she bought her daughter and her daughter in law their cooking pots and pans, she needs to give me some too (I have awesome ones so i’ve suggested knives or cutlery or something else). Anyway.. Yeah. it’s really not a bad problem to have

oh wow! I’ve been on the receiving end of the ‘sleep sexing’ before. It’s crazy and not fun for the receiver, although I wasn’t exactly trusting of the person who was doing it.

Nothing wrong at all with calling it. Logistics break people up all the time or prevent anything from starting.

I think there are three categories. People who are OK with it from the get go (or okay-ish). People who are “absolutely not” and people who are person-dependent. Any of them are fine. Maybe you’re 100% no way, maybe you’re person dependent and this just isn’t the person

It’s good to have success stories because for all our single or singlish friends out there who are looking to partner up, this is what a good relationship looks and feels like! Don’t deal with douches!

Speaking on the note of douches: I have a good friend I email with daily (and have for 5 years). She works for a company that is a customer of mine so a lot of it is work-related items, but we have gotten to know each other very well over the years and have similar interests and hobbies. Anyway, her husband SUCKS. Like majorly and gives me PTSD back to MaterialsDouche days. I know I’m on the other side of it now, but I can’t help thinking “it just doesn’t have to be like this!” It shouldn’t feel like pulling teeth to live a normal life.

yeah ALE.. I think in another thread we are talking about ways to be better communicators, but even when we give the silent treatment, at the end of it there’s an apology and then a talk about feelings and what brought that on. Not laying on the blame game

@anonymousse: stop on by if in the Chi! @Copa, @ktfran, @kmentothat all of y’all! AP is coming! and so is the little one

The facts we had are: dude was really into you, there were certainly some obstacles to overcome (4 hour distance), but everything seemed to be tracking within a normal-ish bound. Last few days, he’s veered from normal. You specifically asked for things and expressed importance. He didn’t respond (rude or otherwise). Made rude joke/statement. Possible end to relationship.

You’ve said if he takes this job it’s done. What happens if he doesn’t take this job? Is there a reasonable explanation that would allow you to continue? I’m kinda thinking that it’s just too soon to put up with some of this. Not that he HAD to consider choosing you or the job, just that if he really was THAT into you (like how his love bombing has been so far would indicate), it would have merited a phone call