Megan_A_Mess

@Fabelle – I really think that this subject is something that people don’t really think too hard about until comes up, and then they say the first thing that comes to mind, maybe since they haven’t thought about it. That’s just my guess. But I do feel like you, and may other posters here, that it should be a discussion, and not just an assumption.

I’m going to sum up how I feel about this in simple sentences because I literally just typed out a two paged single spaced paper about it. I’m not married, but was engaged before, and it was assumed I’d take my exes name because that’s just what is traditionally done, and his family is really traditional. My boyfriend and I are forward-thinking, and feminists, but should we decide to get married, I surprised him by telling him I would take his name, much for the same reasons as GatorGirl; it’s shorter, and won’t be as mispronounced as my current last name. Plus, this time, it really just feels right. Before it just felt forced (that is why our engagement ended, I felt like we were doing a lot of things just because “that’s how they were done” not because we really wanted to.) Also, I’m not overly attached to my last name. I know a lot of people feel defined or ID’d by it, but I simply don’t. I also won’t be a PhD or anything when I graduate college, so no harm done there.

All in all, I feel, much like everything else, it’s personal choice. And if people don’t like it, (because there will always be someone, some where, who doesn’t like your decision) screw ’em. As long as you can wake up everyday and feel confident and comfortable about your choices, that’s all that matters.

And a special thank you to painted_lady and lemongrass, I shall now talk my boy into changing our names to Mr. and Mrs. Motherfucking Badass.