Miss MJ

Aww, Veritek. I’m super glad you enjoyed your photo shoot and both sets of y’all’s parents toured the winery. You and MoV are correct to not bother with his sister. In fact, I’d advise to just stop asking about her until after the wedding. All it does is give her room to spread her misery and feed into her narrative that she’s owed some sort of … whatever because she’s also getting married. Maybe she’ll be better after it’s all said and done, but I honestly doubt it. I suspect she’s been this way her entire life and always will be. It sucks for MoV that his sister is a brat, but it seems pretty clear that everyone knows she’s the problem here, not you. Just focus on your relationship and do everything you need to do to enjoy your wedding, which it sounds like you’re doing, so good for you!

I honestly just love this thread!

Ver, your future SIL is batshit, through and through. At least your future in-laws seem to know it, though.

I’ve only been to one wedding where everyone knew the couple was going to get divorced. (Spoiler: They did.) It was soooooo awkward.

So, there’s a lot of extraneous stuff going in here and you just want to know what to do about your husband wanting a gun.

I’m not a gun person. I don’t get it. But, my family is full of vets; my brother (a vet) is a cop and my husband’s dad has given us two guns. I’ve learned to live with them being around.

But – here’s the thing – we all respect the fuck out of the fact that a gun can kill people. We’re not John Wayne and this ain’t TV. So, they (we?) take precautions.

We don’t have kids, but ours are locked away. My brother (cop) keeps his safely, safely secured when he’s at home with his kids around. I believe my other in-laws got rid of theirs because of the kids, or st least made them unavailable. And we’re all pro-gun control.

My advice: You have a very young child. You don’t have a real need for a gun. You should tell your husband “Let’s table this until all of our kids are old enough to understand the implications of a gun and what it can do.” When that is something y’all can discuss. And then, depending on where the debate is at, you can reconvene.

But you can’t have a cavalier attitude about guns around toddlers, or any kids, actually. That’s a non-starter. If you have to have one, there has to be a rigorous, no exceptions, every single time process to make sure that they are locked up well away from children, preferably unloaded, unless job reasons make that unfeasible.

@TheHizzy: Good luck. My mom was really afraid of PT after a knee surgery, but she said it was soooooo helpful and not nearly as bad as she had feared.

Re lawyers: I’m also a lawyer. (So is my husband, but we met before law school.) But, based on what I encounter on a daily basis, if I were single, I’d run from most male lawyers. It’s a profession that just attracts (or breeds, maybe both?) know-it-all assholes.

Everyone else, I’m an old married lady, who hasn’t been on a first date in, like nearly two decades (gawd) but I really enjoy this thread. I can’t believe it’s nearly two years old! Sorry I don’t really have much to contribute except internet moral support.

I think a ball would be fun because I love that shit, but yeah, getting a dress and all of that, plus meeting so many of his friends/co-workers at one time this soon might be overwhelming. Especially since you’re really busy! I’d tell him you’d love to go out again (I assume you do) and that you cannot make it to the ball, but the game sounds great. Even if you hate football or the game sucks, the experience is still pretty fun. Plus, Bloody Mary’s!

I’d take it as a good sign that he was wants to do something “big” for your second date, too. I think it shows interest to want to hang out with someone for hours and possibly introduce them to your friends and co-workers instead of just a quick drink or coffee. He obviously likes you enough to want to include you in his life, instead of trying to schedule you in around it, you know? He may just be a social butterfly, but even so, at least you’ll have fun.

@kare: What a sucky situation. Does your friend understand that she could have her daughter taken away if something happened while her BF was “babysitting” but really high and/or passed out? It sounds like she’s not thinking clearly at all. If she really wants that boob job that much, tell her to put it on some credit cards and dump this guy. The debt sucks, but damn, it’s a lot better than dealing with CPS (and that’s a good case scenario).