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Totally popping in to say, MG, your photos are beautiful! You look so happy. 🙂 Congrats!! I have been totally tempted to just do City Hall wedding myself someday.
@hfantods I also had a similar thing happen to me maybe 6 years ago too- met a guy online, who asked to be Facebook friends. I remember looking at his page soon after, at night. By the next morning, he had unfriended me and I never heard from him again. Your dude was definitely a jerk.
Aw, well that sounds exciting, Kmen! 🙂
I have a semi-happy dating update? I went on a first date last night with a guy from Bumble (my first date off that app) and it was actually pretty nice. I had actually had plans to meet this guy last week but he had to cancel due to a previous plan he’d forgotten about, and I’d written him off. But then he asked the next day to reschedule, so that was actually pretty nice. Anyway, we each had a drink and talked for a couple of hours, and it was just a nice time. No real chemistry or anything, but it was just a nice few hours getting to know someone. I don’t think I’ll see him again though. But that’s ok.That’s about it for me.
Copa, I completely know how you’re feeling. (ETA: And you MissDre!) You are not alone!! And I’m sending you both internet hugs if you want them.
Oh my god, really? I hope he said more than that… I’m really sorry Miss Dre.
And Copa, I’m so sorry about that text this morning! WHO thinks that sending a breakup TEXT early on a Monday morning, without any warning, is a good idea?!
You both deserve so much better.In other news, my date on Saturday was fun. He’s a funny, charming guy, and I can tell he has a good heart. But I still feel… kind of meh about him. We had 3 glasses of wine at this cool wine bar near my place, then had some dinner at this cafe that I really like. By the time we walked back to my place, it was about 8pm. He was going to be meeting his friend about a 30 min drive away (a mutual friend of theirs had recently passed away, and he was going to go visit), and he had asked if he could take a quick nap on my couch. Which was totally fine with me. And then he invited me to cuddle with him. Which I was like, uh, well, ok. And then he said something like, don’t worry I’m not going to try to have sex with you. And I was like, Um, I wouldn’t let you! (Um, what?) And so we cuddled on the couch, nothing happened, but he did kiss me a few times but no making out happened. And then he had to go. SO. I just… I dunno. I should be wanting to at least make out, but something is making me go in the opposite direction.
Other than that, I have a date with a new guy, from Bumble, tomorrow. I’m actually looking forward to it. He seems like a down to earth guy, so we’ll see. I’m going into it just looking forward to meeting someone new and getting to know them.
Hi guys! I’m just popping in to say:
I’m sorry Veritek! 🙁 Hugs to you! I don’t drink coffee much, but I did have a cappuccino today at lunch in her honor.
@Kare- I’m sorry you’re stuck in the middle of all of the craziness right now- I hope you and your family stay safe!
@MaterialsGirl- your party sounds so fun! Wish I lived closer too!
@Missdre- I’m late to the party on what’s going on, but I feel frustrated for you. I also think your plan of action is a good one. I’m curious to hear what he has to say when he returns…
@Ktfran- this is more on topic for the morning letter, but I have to say THANKS for bringing up the gaping bra thing. I actually was super fed up earlier this week because my (old, probably stretched out) bra was doing the same and it was feeling super uncomfortable. On Tuesday after work I went to Macy’s and tried on a bunch of bras- wound up getting one B-cup and 3 A-cup bras, which look the same as the B-cup but whatever. (Calvin Klein and Tommy Hilfiger with padding ftw.) No gaps, and I feel so much better. 😛I have a date tomorrow afternoon with a guy I feel pretty lukewarm about… Quick backstory: We went on 3 dates back in March, where he came on pretty heavy, and then he abruptly ended things because he wanted to exclusively date someone else. Ok fine, bye. Then in May, he got back in touch and wanted to go out for a drink. But no explanation about the other person or where he was at or anything. (In fact I thought we were just friends. Until he referred to it being a “date” and he kept touching my leg, which I ignored). We went to a baseball game, after which he said he felt like I had ignored him, both at the game and at the previous date. (I said, well, I was paying attention to the game while talking to you bc I like baseball, and you had my complete attention at the bar so…) In June I moved and had crazy work stuff going on so we talked sporadically, but he suggested getting together once I got all unpacked. So that’s going to be tomorrow. I genuinely like hanging out with him, as he’s funny and we have good conversation, but I just feel kind of indifferent. I haven’t missed him at all… which to me is a sign. So yeah. We’ll see. I know that, even though I have a fun time when I’m with him, it doesn’t mean we actually have chemistry/we should go out, etc.
Oh my gosh, yes, I have totally done that more than once! And I know it was because I was desperately trying to hold on to the relationship because I otherwise would have felt like a failure and/or didn’t think that I would ever meet someone else after that. (oof.) And I don’t want to pile on you, Kmen, but maybe you need to just take a breather and be single for awhile? Spend some time “doing you?” I know everyone is different, but when I have gotten out of relationships (of which I have not had many, I admit), I don’t even *want* to date- I just want to regroup and take care of myself and do my own thing for awhile before spending energy dating (not to mention, taking breaks when dating gets frustrating or whatever). This is just my perspective, and people prefer to do things their own way, but this has helped me stay centered.
I have to agree with the others- whatever he’s dealing with is his own deal, and it really ultimately has nothing to do with you. And you were only dating for 3 months- so his crying and letter writing seems to be way way way too much. I also have to echo what AP and Lianne are saying- you were thinking about ending things anyway, so while this hurts now, it’s likely for the best in the long run. It helped you get over your long term relationship ending, and was fun for awhile, but it ended. Maybe that’s all you were ultimately meant to get from it?
Personally I don’t mind that question early on. As long as it’s general, not specific to the other person, like you say. And I don’t think you necessarily need a long conversation about it, either. I think it helps to know where the other person is coming from.
Ugh, I’ve been wanting to update this thread the last few days! I’ll get back to you, soon!… (nothing exciting, just some head scratching going on. 😛 )
Lucia_la, your weekend in Wroclaw sounds so cool. I would *love* to go to Poland! It’s on my bucket list of places to visit. 🙂
My weekend was pretty fun. Friday night I went to a brewery that was having a big brew/food truck event with music and food, with my friend Sam and a couple of her friends, as well as a guy I’ve gone on 3 dates with. We all had a fun time, and he and I stayed til the bitter end. Saturday night I went to a college friend’s birthday bbq, and it was great since I haven’t seen him in a couple of years! On Sunday, I spent 4 hours at work (work is crazy busy) and then met some coworkers and former coworkers at this great Italian place nearby for dinner. A former coworker was in town visiting from back east, and so it was a little reunion. Plus, she had her 11 month old daughter with her! Such fun.
Wow. Ok. I honestly didn’t see Veritek’s post as complaining- mostly just a “here’s what I did, and wow, I was beat!” Of course, different activities are more stressful to some people than others. Whether it’s driving, or chasing kids around, or doing yard work, or whatever. I would never want to be an uber driver because I live in a really dense urban area and I hate traffic which seems to be everywhere these days. But everyone has different feelings about it!
I actually really love getting flowers, from anybody, really! I once got flowers as a b-day gift from a guy I had been dating for maybe a month, plus he paid for my dinner at a group dinner. I also got flowers sent to my office from a boyfriend, after we’d been dating for a year. I don’t think it’s too odd to buy a new date alcohol as a gift, but only if the idea is to share it! It’s not as odd as, say, getting him a sweater. 😛
And I also thought it was a bit much to go buy her a star on the first date- that would have made me think, “whoa, hold your horses there.” But perhaps in context it didn’t wave any big red flags? I dunno. Just my 2 cents. 🙂
