Moneypenny

Oh my gosh, yes, I have totally done that more than once! And I know it was because I was desperately trying to hold on to the relationship because I otherwise would have felt like a failure and/or didn’t think that I would ever meet someone else after that. (oof.) And I don’t want to pile on you, Kmen, but maybe you need to just take a breather and be single for awhile? Spend some time “doing you?” I know everyone is different, but when I have gotten out of relationships (of which I have not had many, I admit), I don’t even *want* to date- I just want to regroup and take care of myself and do my own thing for awhile before spending energy dating (not to mention, taking breaks when dating gets frustrating or whatever). This is just my perspective, and people prefer to do things their own way, but this has helped me stay centered.

Personally I don’t mind that question early on. As long as it’s general, not specific to the other person, like you say. And I don’t think you necessarily need a long conversation about it, either. I think it helps to know where the other person is coming from.
Ugh, I’ve been wanting to update this thread the last few days! I’ll get back to you, soon!… (nothing exciting, just some head scratching going on. 😛 )

Wow. Ok. I honestly didn’t see Veritek’s post as complaining- mostly just a “here’s what I did, and wow, I was beat!” Of course, different activities are more stressful to some people than others. Whether it’s driving, or chasing kids around, or doing yard work, or whatever. I would never want to be an uber driver because I live in a really dense urban area and I hate traffic which seems to be everywhere these days. But everyone has different feelings about it!

That guy is bonkers. Just bonkers.

Good luck with the tests, Kare! I just had mine last week, and I’m always thankful that I only have to do it once a year.
Veritek, I think the star naming is really cute. Even if it’s not really “yours” it’s a fun gift! I’ve seen ads for that, and I’ve always thought it would be a fun gift for that person who has everything. That or a goat, purchased in their name, for someone in a developing country.
I’ve been home sick this week with tonsillitis of all things- my throat is feeling almost normal again, and not like I swallowed a hot cactus! But I have absolutely no plans this weekend, other than going to the library to study. Boring. My sis and her fam are coming to visit for Easter, so I’m glad I get to see them, and I’m glad I won’t be sick either!

I haven’t updated lately, just because I feel like I end up sounding like a broken record. And it’s all very frustrating. (Like always.) Awhile back I went on dates with a couple of guys- one was ok but meh (didn’t hear back from him which was fine), and the other was really fun and awesome. I wound up going out with that guy 3 times, last time on St Patrick’s Day, and all were a blast- we got along great, made each other laugh, talked up a storm, lots of chemistry. All signs point to positive. Well, last sunday he called me, to say hi and see how I was doing and hear my voice, but then also to tell me that he also had been dating someone else before he met me (ok no surprise), and that he felt like he can’t date 2 people seriously at the same time and that he felt that he wanted to see that one through, and if only we’d met earlier he wouldn’t have to make this decision, and he may not have thought it all the way through and it may not work out, and I’m great in xyz ways, etc etc. Basically it’s not anything I’ve done, or that we’re not compatible, but he just wants to date one person at a time now and I’m not it.

I also had a phone date with a guy, who really preferred to talk on the phone first instead of just having a cup of coffee or something. And it felt like a job interview. He asked a question, I answered, said “how about you?” and he’d answer. Ugh. He’s cute but I’m not sure this is going to go well. And I get only a few matches on eharmony these days, and most of them have either no picture or a sparsely filled in profile. So, I’m feeling pretty bummed about the state of things lately. I wish things would just turn around, it really starts to get to me.
Anyway: I hope everyone has a great weekend!!!

I had no idea lacrosse was Canada’s national sport (that’s an official thing?). I totally thought it would be hockey! I hope you have a blast!!
Well I’ve gone on a couple of dates this week. Monday I went out for drinks with a guy from eharmony. We met at a wine bar, had a couple of glasses, then he took me to a piano bar nearby and I had a watermelon martini (tasted like a Jolly Rancher). Followed by late night pizza. Not bad for a Monday! It was actually really fun, we have similar senses of humor, and our personalities meshed pretty well. He also gave me a very nice kiss goodnight! We’re going to go out again on Sunday.
Tonight I had coffee with a guy from Coffee Meets Bagel. He was really nice, reserved but warm in personality. He’s originally from France, but spent much of his life in the US and in Tennessee. I didn’t quite feel like we meshed as well, but it was a fun time talking to him. He asked if I maybe wanted to hang out again, and I agreed. (why not!)
Incidentally, both of these guys are totally not my type. 😛 They’re both blonde with blue eyes (same as me), which is not what I go for, but hey, they’re both cute so who cares!
Other than that, my life has been pretty quiet on the dating front but too busy everywhere else!