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Kare, what are you planning to be for Halloween?
I’m going to a Halloween party that is literary themed. As in, dress up as your favorite children’s lit character. Apparently there are going to be a few Harry Potter characters there. I am going as Nancy Drew. I’m just going to wear a 60’s era dress I made and do my hair in a flip. I also bought a big magnifying glass. So, simple, and something not super easy to guess. 🙂I also have plans to go on a date next week with a new guy- I’m actually looking forward to it! I’m staying cautious but optimistic.
Ktfran, that’s a great story you shared on the main page! 😀
Copa, I totally know that feeling. It’s hard to put past negative experience aside and just take people at their word. I’ve totally been there! For your sake, I hope he’s not ghosting. And if he is? Well, that’s a cowardly way to end things, and I wouldn’t want to be with someone like that anyway. Pshh!
Congratulations Ktfran!!! That’s awesome!! 😀
Copa, what makes you think he’s ghosting? That really does suck, even though you were casual. After 2-3 months, I’d at least want some sort of break up email/call/etc.
I recently bought these in burgundy- they’re really cute, not clunky!
http://www.bodenusa.com/en-us/womens-shoes-boots/heels/ar772/womens-wave-mid-heel-court
Eta: I bought the 3″ heel but they also come in 2″ too!
Ange, I *totally* agree with you, and I know I tend to be pretty nice when dating when I don’t really need to. It actually occurred to me that he probably met someone else. But I also try to give people a little bit of the benefit of the doubt- especially when, in this case, I knew how intense his grad program is. And we were going out on proper dates! Which were really fun! So yeah. But I wrote him off and then when he reappeared I totally side-eyed it and put him off until it was actually convenient for me. And come to find out, he was really only interested in one thing. Oh well!
MissDre- yeah, that’s where I figured that was going, so I really wasn’t surprised when he pushed it that direction. I had no expectations going into it. I had suggested meeting at a coffee shop, but he said he’d come to my place instead. My main issue was more that he just assumed that nothing would be different from when I saw him last, which was almost 1.5 months ago.
MissDre- I think that’s a weird thing to say to you. Why is he telling you? He could mean anything by that. And what would he expect you to say in response? Kind of weird to me.
I have an update that is totally worth sharing (bc bullet dodged). So, back in August I dated a guy a few times- things were really positive, good chemistry, all that. I actually really liked him. He was about to start grad school as well. We kept in touch a bit after that but he basically disappeared after labor day. I let it go and moved on, never to hear from him. Fast forward to two weeks ago he texts me that, sorry he was MIA and wanted to see me. He’s suddenly all interested in what I’ve been up to. I tell him I’m basically busy till this past sunday, and so he says, finally on sunday morning, that he’ll come over to my place. (Umm whatever, ok- at least I didn’t have to go all the way to his place?) So he comes over, and we chit chat, and when I suggest going outside and walking around my ‘hood, he’s like, nah, I thought we could just stay here. Basically he repeatedly starts making out with me (which is ok), telling me he missed me, and tries to escalate things to, I assume, end up having sex with me. Needless to say, I’m not really feeling that comfortable about it, and put him off. And he also asks if I’m ok, that something seems different. We end up going out for some dinner, and then come back and he tries again. Then he’s like, “you don’t want to have sex?” And I’m like, no, not really. Because, hello, I haven’t seen you in over a month with no contact, I’ve basically mentally moved on, and this feels really skeevy! He eventually ends up leaving. Ugh. I am not a booty call!
Not only that, but I don’t think he wears deodorant.
How was your date, MissDre? 🙂
My date was just ok. I wound up leaving after 1.5 hours. We met at this hip brewery bar place that’s actually really good and a nice place for a date. It was packed bc there’s a huge convention in town, but eventually we got beers and found a spot to stand. The conversation was ok, just the usual small talk about ourselves, but he was just really awkward and it felt like he had low energy. Plus I swear he kind of smelled like bbq? I really just wasn’t feeling it, and at 9pm I told him I had to get going. Overall, nice guy, just not right for me and I was over it.
Ugh. I’m sorry Miss Dre! Sometimes I wonder if guys (or people in general) will act like nothing happened because they just don’t know how to approach the situation or what to say? Which is no excuse, but this has happened to me too, and it leaves me wondering, wtf? It just comes across as insensitive, at the very least.
What the heck, Miss Dre? What did he even want?! Why do guys do this?
I actually recently had a guy pop up after a month of being MIA. I went on a few dates with him back in August, and all was well, and I last heard from him around Labor Day. He also had started grad school, so I assumed he was just busy with that, or perhaps he met someone else (who knows. I just know I felt like the last time I saw him he wasn’t quite as enthused as he had been before? So I kind of saw the writing on the wall.) Last week, he texts me, saying sorry for being MIA, and could he see me. I said I was busy (I really was), maybe this week. He suddenly is really interested in what I’ve been up to, which is annoying because, where were you the entire month of September?? Then yesterday he texts saying he has finals next week but wants to see me and asks if he can see me tonight. Which is the day I go to a dance class, which I’m not skipping for this dude. I told him I’m free Sunday. I’m not putting up with this kind of behavior. He is not a priority.
I also have a drinks date tomorrow night, which hopefully will go well. The guy seems nice, so we’ll see, I’m not that excited about it at this point!
Other than this, I’m really not excited about any of the prospects I’ve come across online or on apps, and I’m happier just doing my own thing! Once again, it would be nice if something came along though, or if I could just meet someone out in the actual world, while I’m doing all of the fun awesome things. Until then I keep on keepin’ on.
@MissDre- High fives! 😛
But seriously, yeah. I’m pulling back a bit, just to focus my attention elsewhere on more fun and fulfilling things.
Hi guys! I’ve been lurking for awhile now, but I thought I’d update as well. Early-mid August I went through a busy dating period- for instance I had 4 dates in 3 days over a Saturday-Monday – and, well, it’s mostly dropped off since then. Which is good since I can’t keep up with that kind of schedule. I’ve gone on 5 dates with one guy (“T”), but in the last week and a half, contact has been sparse so I’m thinking things will fade with him as well. T is just starting grad school for an MBA program, and he relocated to my area for it. Our dates were great (chemistry! sex! lots of convo!) but school started about 2 weeks ago, and he has barely kept in touch. I last saw him a week ago, and he never even replied to my “goodnight/made it home safe/had a great time” text. So I don’t know what’s going to happen but I am not very optimistic about it.
I’ve gone on two dates with a second guy (“D”), which were both very fun, but they also felt a bit like friend-dates. I’m not sure what he’s looking for exactly. I met him off Tinder but his profile says he’s looking for people to do things with, yet he also paid for the dates we’ve had so far. Either way, I think we could at least be friends or activity-buddies, and we’re going to go to a nighttime museum event next week. Our text convos mostly consist of discussing Stranger Things.
Other than that… I’m still putting myself out there and have been spending time reconnecting with friends and doing fun activities with my book club, like Trivia Night. 🙂 🙂
I’m trying to keep from feeling too discouraged- it just feels like there has been a rotating cast of men who come into my life very briefly and then leave.
