muchachaenlaventana
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I cried at work when my best friend’s (like a sister) father passed away. I was in my office though and the door was shut, so not really sure that applies. The only other time I came close was when I worked for this sick disgusting company and was called in to a meeting with the 3 bosses and asked if I would basically dangle myself in front of a potential client at a conference and have never felt so demeaned or uncomfortable or pissed off since. Even though I don’t think I cried, can’t remember since I have mostly blocked it out.
I honestly do not think I could ever foster dogs.. I have wanted to try but basically your reaction is 100% how I would be. I think it is such an amazing thing you did though, giving that little guy so much love and stability in the time you had him. Either way though, it sounds very sad, also just losing that constant companion is probably a bit of an adjustment. 🙁 I hope you are able to bounce back and see that he gets adopted soon by a loving family.
Yes — take out your card and offer to pay half.
oh man@ sararosie that is ridiculous, especially since you blocked off your night to spend time with him. that is such a rude thing to do to someone.
@miss dre I would listen to some back episodes of savage love or read a few of his advice columns — he deals with this specific issue quite a bit.
Agree, I think tons of texting after one date, especially if there isn’t a second set up, is weird and probably something that a person is doing because they are lonely or don’t have enough hobbies. A few one off texts to say you had a good time or to set something up don’t seem too much to expect, to me.
@kmen did he give a reason or anything? I know you mentioned he has been kind of flaky as of late, I am guessing that was just a symptom? He seemed so great and in to it when you guys first started. Either way, total bummer and so sorry, it is never easy and sometimes can be even more difficult when things are newer and there is a lot of hope or potential for the future.
Ugh @ kmen that SUCKS. So sorry — I hope you got something good out of it — even if it was just a distraction from the initial break up you went through.
@theladyE — I am SO excited on your behalf, I hope things end up panning out for you 🙂
Yikes, some people are pathological. I wonder why he lied to you, especially since its an open relationship, I mean what was to gain… super bizarre. I am sorry you are going through a rough time but hopefully this makes it a lot easier to get over it. I wouldn’t even bother giving him the satisfaction of messages or getting in touch with him to figure out why he lied and what the extent of his lies were. yick
@lucia_la good for you. Sorry things went down this way, but honestly you are probably saving yourself months if not years of frustration and a bad or not fulfilling relationship.
Oh man I am sorry @Stone 🙁 I hope that you can have some time just to be sad and treat yourself to some nice things and feel better soon.
@Lucia I had texts like that they build up the tension and leave me so anxious, I agree with @Kate where you should just go in to it neutral and see how it plays out. It could honestly be a meet up for him to apologize or yeah, could be the death knell. Stay positive though and sorry you have that looming on the horizon.
@kmen I agree that sometimes just being with someone great who makes you feel wanted after a bad breakup can be a super healing/important in and of itself, especially if your ex did a huge number of your self-esteem (cheating and lying in my case, and yours) even if the relationship isn’t a “forever” type of one. I had that after my super big break up and me and the dude were on and off for awhile and then seriously dated for almost 6 months, and it is one of the relationships I look bad on the fondest. We are still friends to this day, when we see each other we talk and catch up and its all good. I am so glad I didn’t let the “rebound” or “you have to take more time” mentality stop me from dating that particular person because it was pretty integral in terms of my healing and feeling better. Good luck with your dude! Warm and fuzzies are where it is at.
My dating update — I have been with my boyfriend for a while now (2.5ish years) and just got in to graduate school a few hours away, and we are trying to navigate what that means for our relationship, and things were really optimistic and hopeful at first and now… not so much. There have been some other things going on in our relationship and I just laid it all out to him the other night and we’ll see what happens. It feels though, that a huge wound has been lanced in our relationship and like things are looking up and I feel 1000% better after getting a lot off of my chest.
