nickel_5
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I’ll throw in another vote for the ball! I have a few buddies that are in the marines, and it seems like the dates that they bring to their formals range from friends to just started dating to serious girlfriends/wives. I wouldn’t worry about it seeming too serious for a second date, and it could be a fun opportunity to get dressed up and do some dancing while getting to know the new guy a bit better
K – yup, PCT. It was amazing, and I am seriously entertaining thoughts of the CDT next, even though it won’t be feasible for several years
Also, the aforementioned fling showed his true colors. Apparently “still wants to see me” translates to “wants to have sex again without his current girlfriend knowing about it.” I’m simultaneously relieved at dodging that bullet and a bit insulted that he thought there was a chance in hell that I’d say yes to his proposition.
I agree with everyone that there’s nothing wrong with casually feeling out where someone stands on marriage/kids/etc in the first few months. Of the men I’ve dated, the ones who eventually wanted kids were typically the one to broach the issue in the context of discussing general life plans.
And back in the not-dating realm, the guy I mentioned a few pages back contacted me to say he’d still really like to visit me for a few days next month. Part of me would love to catch up – we hiked 1,500 miles together and shared a lot of adventures and good times. That said, I know that visiting now will just worsen the sting of rejection and that it would be better not to see him.
Cleo – ugh, that is disappointing. And it seems like it could have been headed off earlier if he’d just been a little more open about his possible dilemna
So, I experienced a dating-related disappointment today. I was casually involved with somebody for a few months over the summer. He was a lot of fun to be with, super smart (a big plus for me!) and very much my “type” physically. We didn’t pursue anything serious at the time because we were both traveling when we met. That said, he’s from a town not far from the one I just moved to, and we had floated the idea of seeing where things went once we were both home, with no commitment until then since we were going to be apart for some time and were both in the middle of fairly significant life transitions. We’ve been exchanging flirty texts/emails/phone calls since parting ways a few months ago and had plans to meet up next month, but communication became more sparse and less flirtatious on his end starting a few weeks ago.
Today he told me that he’s started seeing someone (a mutual acquaintance he met while with me) and things have recently become serious. I apparently had higher hopes than I’d admitted to myself, because it felt like a kick in the teeth when he told me. They’re both lovely people who will probably be great together, but feeling like somebody’s second choice is still shitty. *sigh*
Emsz – sounds like you made the right choice on moving on from that guy, but I agree that it doesn’t necessarily mean that you don’t like kissing! I was disappointed and seriously wondered why people actually enjoyed the experience with the first guy I dated/kissed/made out with (oh lord I don’t want to think about how long ago that was). Luckily my subsequent experiences were much better, and I also figured out what I liked best with time
Ha, yeah, I’ve used OKC before and dated a guy I met there for about 6 months. I’ve gone through waves of appreciating that it’s a way to meet guys that I probably wouldn’t otherwise, alternating with getting a bit overwhelmed with the sheer number of messages you get as a woman on the site. Meetup doesn’t seem to be very active in my area. It’s a bit strange being in a small college town in my late 20s – there are tons of clubs through the university, but they’re very undergrad-oriented. I am planning to check out the small local blues/swing dance scene soon, as it’s a hobby I enjoy and a good way of meeting people.
*waves* I’m a very occasional poster who hasn’t been around for a long time, but I’m delurking to say hi! Lion Tamer is an awesome pseudonym – hopefully things continue going well for you!
I just moved to a new town where I don’t know anyone. I’m thinking about reactivating Okcupid or trying Tinder just to make myself get out and meet people. Do people still even use Tinder? For anything other than hookups?
