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Wow that is so shitty of him @Stone, I hope you and his other girl both give him the heave ho and he is alone. Because he deserves it for trying to have is cake and eat it. Bastard.
Sorry @Stone, I misread what you wrote – I blame beer. I hope it all works out for you and you’re able to keep this person in your life while still exploring other opportunities to find a secure primary partner for yourself. I’m still not sure keeping the Physicist in your immediate life would be good for you but of course, only you can figure that out.
But… why do you have to give up the idea of having a primary partner? I don’t know, I don’t know you but I’d be pretty miserable being a secondary partner with no one to call my own if that’s what I truly wanted. You have to be true to yourself, n’est pas? Oh look, I’ve turned into a French prat.
Honestly, it’s your life and I hope I’m not coming across preachy. I don’t think it’s too much to ask to have yourself a primary partner who has the same ideals as you, with all the fun you both want on the side.
I don’t know… I had a long boozy lunch but it seems to me if he’s wanting to give it a real go with her as a primary partner and that’s something you’re looking for too, would he not be a distraction to finding that for yourself? Obviously I’m not in a poly relationship and I’m talking out of my butt right now but I want you to find that primary relationship that will make you feel happy and secure.
Ah I talked to him about it last night, we seem cool on that front now. It was a shame and I felt bad about my flippant comment but at least he knows that now. And he told me some more about his worries, apparently the freeholders have done some seriously dodgy stuff in the past… between them and the tenants not paying their rent on time, it causes a lot of stress.
Phew, that sounds totally cute with your old ‘flame’! It’s amazing that the chemistry is still there, I guess sometimes it never goes away. Are you going to see how it goes? I remember reading you were looking for someone to just be a physical relationship with you.
So Austria was pretty cool. The weather was indeed crap the whole time but we still had a good time. It was actually snowing the day we went up the mountain, I declined walking the 20 minutes to the summit in the freezing weather. But we had these tourists cards that got us there and into a lot of other places that were really worth it. And I got to have a little hike on my last day, and met this lovely old Austrian couple along the way that had the most amazing life.
We got into a row though, at dinner on the boyfriend’s birthday… He wanted to talk to me about the worries he has about his other flat (he owns) and I thought he was typically worrying unnecessarily. I said something kind of flippant and it kind of soured the meal. I guess I should probably talk to him some more about it, I reckon now he thinks he can’t talk to me about these things.
Oh I’m not friends with any of them @kmtthat!! Only that I’d be friendly to them 🙂 Have a fantastic time in Peru!!
@Kare, I am jealous of your Iceland trip! I’ve held off going there, I’ve heard it’s best to drive and neither myself or the boyfriend can do that. It’s going to be amazing, like a foreign planet I reckon!
Oh man @Stonegypsy, I’m so sorry that you went through that. I’ve got one ex from my youth that was a bit like that… He was really troubled, I really hope he sorted himself out. Yeah, it was weird about the French guy – like, why tell me this after all this time? I was also coming off a bit of an all-nighter so it was even more confusing to my addled brain 🙂
Thanks @Veritek, I hope it’ll be lovely despite the weather!
Oh @Stonegypsy, I’ve been checking the weather every day and it is going to RAIN THE ENTIRE TIME. But that happens every year we go away for my boyfriend’s birthday, it’s getting to be a bit of a joke.
That’s sad one of your exes is dead. I had a somewhat friendly relationship with my French ex for years but then he called me up out of the blue and admitted that he omitted the truth on many assumptions I had made about him during our relationship. That was weird. Still, I’d talk to him again before the Albanian.
San Diego is lovely! We’re going back to NYC in June which I’m so looking forward to and I’d like to go skiing this winter if possible. Then a little saving I think, maybe we’ll take a big trip like China after I graduate in 2018!
Thanks @K! We’re going to Innsbruck! The weather is going to be crap but I’m hopeful we can still do a little hiking! It can’t be worse than our adventures in Switzerland, it rained the whole week we were there last summer.
Ha @ktfran, we’re going to AUSTRIA. Austin’s a bit far for me for a four day trip 🙂
That’s fantastic news @StoneGypsy, time for more celebrations and whiskey! I’m quite lucky that I’d be happy to speak to any of my ex’s again a friendly way, barring one nightmare. I always think that even though the romantic relationship didn’t work out, there’s still the chemistry as Wendy talked about in a recent article.
BOOM. After today I am on holiday for the rest of the week and I’m excited, I so need this break after a stressful time at work and a stressful time studying for exams. But the latter are all done!
We’re going to Austria for four days and I hope to climb some mountains! It’ll be the first time travelling since giving up meat so I’m interested to see what happens there!
People being pressured to buy guns is weird as hell to me, but I say that as a Canadian whose lived most of her life in the UK. How is everyone else doing?
