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Congrats Ver! And MissDre and Lucia_la, those both sounded like very successful trips with the SO’s.
I really liked your dress too, TheHizzy! I’m a big fan of the lacy wedding dress. And enjoy the quiet. I can’t say I know what it’s like to have your kids visiting for over a week, but we had the niece and nephew over this weekend for their first sleepover (5 & 7 years old) and both ended up sick 🙁
I’m so sorry, Ale. For what it’s worth, I vote for planning a solo vacation. I went on one after a breakup and even though it seemed daunting (I’d never traveled alone before), I had a fantastic time. I met new and interesting people and didn’t have to take anyone else’s wants and needs into consideration.
I haven’t done that myself, but I think it can’t hurt. I think if I were dating, I wouldn’t necessarily make a vision board, but I’d at least try a list like MissDre. In therapy, I found that the act of writing things down solidified it in my mind more and helped me be more positive, so there’s that.
Tickets to Europe have been cheap for almost a year now. We went to Paris last year for like $600 each and bought tickets last June, it was great!
Congrats on the job, Ver!
These dates/trips/foster dogs all sound great, everyone!
I’m also not a big Valentine’s Day person. So Galentine’s Day this year, me and a friend are going to a free reception at a nearby conference – I’m hoping for wine and yummy appetizers. Husband will be home studying, so maybe I’ll bring him chocolate or something…
I’m certainly on the more wholesome side, but as far as I know, my friends/acquaintances don’t do cocaine (doesn’t mean they don’t do it, but if they do, I don’t know about it). On the other hand, pot use is pretty much all around and was the drug of choice in my high school.
Yeah, I think Pi Day is March 14. I think that Pie Day can be any day, though – I’m very supportive of pies.
I hope all your dates went/will go well!
But Ver, be careful at the trampoline place! A friend of mine broke something in her leg at one of those places and has had two surgeries because of it. She could barely walk down the aisle at her own wedding this past fall.
@kare, awesome, I was there in June and it was fun. And agreed, ridiculously attractive people everywhere. I heard that because the population is so small and interconnected in Iceland, there’s a dating app for Icelanders that also figures out whether/how closely you’re related. When I was there, the most popular spot was this ice cream place called Valdís. That whole area was cool – it’s a bunch of converted warehouses, so kinda hipster.
I’ve also been watching all the great Northern Lights pictures coming out of Iceland recently – any chance you’re gonna see those? They’re on my bucket list.
Oh good, I’ve got just over a month until mine. Saying it’s going to be the 11th anniversary of our first date makes me feel old.
Oof, that sounds exhausting, Copa! Yeah, you probably shouldn’t marry someone if you can’t figure out by then how to communicate well, but you also shouldn’t marry someone if you’re inherently mismatched. I also know some people like that and it isn’t pretty… But they also seem to be people who claim to have good communication when it’s really that they aren’t bottling things up.
I think that communication skills are something that can be worked on in a relationship. But it sounds like his response is, I won’t do it again, rather than, let’s work on X together (or separately) and find a more constructive way of discussing things so that we can improve our communication in the future. I don’t know what the answer is, but don’t do the emotional work for him.
