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    March 9, 2018 at 2:08 pm #742409

    Thanks @Roxy_84. Changing up the sites after a few months sounds like a good idea. I will be sure to speak with him about that and help him when he thinks he’s ready to try a new site.

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    March 8, 2018 at 11:40 am #742266

    Thanks Copa. I think two sites at the same time is a good idea. I forgot about OKCupid, I’ll look into that and Coffee Meets Bagel for him. If the free sites don’t seem to be panning out for him we can look into Match. Maybe it’s changed around here since I used it. If a free month works for him maybe I can help him pay for a few additional months.

    I agree about him being upfront about his disability. I’m leaning towards advising him to address it if someone brings it up and if they don’t to wait and mention it to them if they go out a second time. He is blind in one eye with very poor vision in the other. Anyone who sees him trying to read something, like a menu, would notice. I think that it has caused him to miss out learning social cues like body language and such. So he doesn’t always pick up on nonverbal cues, similar to struggles some people with certain kinds of autism have.

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    March 8, 2018 at 8:23 am #742236

    Hey everyone, I’m looking for a little advice. I met my husband about 3 years ago through Meetup (didn’t start dating right away) and this thread was helpful to follow as people were having the same experiences as me. I think @ktfran met her now husband about the same time I met mine. This weekend I’m going to be helping my younger brother setup an online dating profile. I know from following this thread that things have changed since I tried online dating, about 5 years ago. I talked to my brother about Meetup because it’s never a bad idea to make new friends with common interests but I was thinking of signing him up for Plenty of Fish. I used Match when I was online dating and I wasn’t super impressed with the quantity of people in my area. It sounds like people here have come to the conclusion that the paid sites don’t seem to have more pay off than the free sites. Am I correct in that thinking?

    Also, he has a disability that I don’t think needs to be disclosed in his profile. He doesn’t let it stop him from working and leading a normal life but it does limit the kinds of jobs he can have and therefore impacts the amount of money he makes. He is really the sweetest guy but his trusting nature in the past has drawn in people who have taken advantage of him. I plan to talk to him about red flags and such. I guess I’m just nervous about how to present him in the best light. Any suggestions?

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    January 11, 2018 at 4:12 pm #735611

    What we do is similar to @ktfran. We didn’t live together until we were married (not for religious reasons we just were both used to living independently and enjoyed our space) and once he moved in I continued paying my mortgage and homeowners insurance and I buy all the groceries/household products. He pays all the utilities, and the health and car insurance. It works out to be less than he paid in rent alone so it’s a good deal for him and took a bunch off my plate. When we go out we take turns paying. He does make a considerable amount more than me so typically the more expensive meals or if we are treating friends to dinner he will pay. We have discussed that when we have kids and/or buy a house together we will need to have a joint account we put the same percentage of our income into and also maintain our own individual accounts. I don’t want to feel I need to explain why I bought a new dress and he doesn’t want to feel he needs to explain why he bought the latest electronic toy he wanted. My mom was a stay at home mom and my dad managed all the money. I know she always felt guilty if she wanted something for herself (which was almost never) and I never want to feel that way and my husband agrees that neither one of us ever should.

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    June 9, 2017 at 12:20 pm #689904

    I have been following this since last night when it was posted and have agreed 100% with everyone else’s comments.

    I have to say that I had the exact same thought as bagge72. It really sounds like you hate your DIL and this is a passive aggressive way of showing it. Do you give your son one of his dad’s pieces of art for every single gift giving occasion & if you don’t, why not? I commend your son for standing by his wife and dealing with his family without throwing her to the wolves and she is a saint for being well mannered and tactful enough to deal with your behavior as well as she has.

    Copa, YES! I was thinking the same thing about the crafts. This woman is so lucky her daughter in law has been gracious. I have to wonder how many times the DIL was out with for a girls night and they all joke about the things she should start making and gift to her in laws. Good on her for not actually doing it but I’m sure she has had to let off some steam now and then.

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    May 23, 2017 at 10:22 am #687937

    I’m going to throw in on this because I know that I do not like men approaching me at the gym and I know a number of other women who very sensitive about this. I am not saying there is anything wrong with the OP but every co-ed gym I have ever belonged to have had at least a few creepers and women are very aware of this, so I think he should tread lightly. I agree with the other recommendations to start with smiling and then if she responds in kind move to a “hi” if she is near you. She may be receptive and have an interest to you as well and you can proceed from there. However, please be aware of her body language and if she’s throwing off signals that she does not want to be spoken to. Many people are purely there to workout. You can tell the people who are open to socializing.