Stonegypsy
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@Kare That’s so cool. But yeah, if that’s not something you’re into, and you are certain it’s him, probably best to just cancel.
Asking for input: My date for Thursday, we exchanged numbers and solidified plans, chatted a little bit. I haven’t talked to him in a couple of days at all. Should I send a “Hey how’s your week?” kind of message, or just keep quiet until we meet in person?
@Loo it does seem a lot easier than okcupid. Plus it really helps me be more excited about talking to people when I only match with the ones I actually find attractive.
@Kare for the record, I think a lot of people just don’t like to spend a ton of time chatting with someone who ultimately they may not have chemistry with. I know I also have a hard time continuing to keep up conversations online with strangers, so I’ve just started asking them pretty quickly if they’d like to get together in person “To verify that neither of us is the ‘back away slowly’ brand of crazy?” rather than letting the conversation fade into daily boring greetings or silence.
@Loo that sounds amazing! And gives me hope about my upcoming tinder adventures (I only just joined last week because I haven’t had much luck with okcupid)
I agree that you’re dating @ktfran. I mean, 5 dates in, sexytimes are happening, and there’s clear interest on both sides. But it’s never exclusive until there’s something of a conversation confirming it. Just assuming that kind of thing is a recipe for disaster.
Yay for dates continuing to be awesome @ktfran!
I had two super ‘meh’ dates over the weekend. The first guy we just didn’t seem to have anything in common really, and then he started talking about how if women feel unwelcome in the video game community, they should just stop playing, and I was just done.
The second guy was okay, but I didn’t find him particularly attractive and we also just didn’t seem to have much to talk about.
I have been chatting with a guy on Tinder who I am meeting up with on Thursday for a drink. That one I actually am excited about. The conversation online has been really easy and natural, and if his pictures are accurate, he is really really attractive (and he sent me a picture taken after the mud run he did yesterday and my jaw actually dropped). Another guy is taking me for a picnic next Sunday, and I’m pretty excited about that one too. I think I’m going to wait until after those are done before I make any other first dates.@Veritek 2 hours can be kind of a pain when you’re getting to know someone, but it’s not something that can’t be overcome if there’s interest and chemistry enough to make it worth it. Hope it goes well!
@Veritek That’s really lame. Sorry your date was a dud. I’d definitely start pulling back and focusing energy elsewhere. You’ll find someone both awesome *and* excited about you!
In the meantime, man dating sucks sometimes.
@Moneypenny What? That’s kind of ridiculous. “Not willing to walk around a city barefoot for a day” seems like a bizarre dealbreaker.
I’m really disappointed about the guy who stood me up. Like, I’m still not sure what happened. We had plans, he was supposed to text me when he was done with his other thing, and then he just never did. I was disappointed. Our conversations had been enjoyable up to that point.
@ktfran It will be a funny story, once I’m certain that he isn’t going to become a scary stalker.
Then I’ll laugh about it.@Veritek I dunno, I was thinking instead I’d move in with him next week 😉
He also kept saying how he’s special, and he knows exactly what I need and can give me the love I want, and just… like he’s only been divorced for a few months. Guy is legitimately bonkers.
Yeah. He spent the entire time just telling me how pretty I am, and how I’m a ‘full entity’ instead of a ‘shell’. Then he talked about how he knows there are aliens living among us because he talked to doctors in New Mexico.
I’m so creeped out. I’m just glad he doesn’t know where I live
Guys, the dude I went out with last night was a crazy person. He was all over the place and kept talking about how he was missing a ‘loving touch’ and I decided to go ahead and kiss him at the end of the night, and he sent me a text saying that I’d stolen his heart.
Last week I got stood up by a guy I was actually excited about, and I haven’t met anyone else who I have any chemistry with.
I hate dating 😛
So… I have a first date tonight with a guy I met in meatspace (honestly it’s been years since I met a date anywhere but online), and I’m kind of nervous and excited but also kind of apprehensive because he seems a little too eager and excited to see me.
But we’re going to a jazz bar, and that should be fun, and I really could use some fun flirty times.@Veritek I’ve kinda just been lurking on this thread for the most part, but I think you should definitely just go for it and kiss the guy tomorrow night. Especially if you know you give off mixed signals, he could be as confused as you are. The worst that could happen is that it’s not reciprocated and then you have your answer. Either way, have fun!
