TheRascal
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What is your actual point, Mike?
Prior to meeeting Mr. Rascal, one gentleman I had been on one date and had a fun makeout session in the park with, was an incessant texter. He came on so strong that I told him I wasn’t interested in seeing him again. I don’t get the constant need for texting; it feels so oppressive/suffocating.
Hi everyone! Haven’t really chimed in on this thread, but I have kept up with it.
I’m an online dating success story. I met my husband on OKCupid in 2012 and we married in 2016. I’m about to be 36, he is about to be 35 (we were 30 and 29, respectively, when we met), we had both had long-term (and shitty) previous relationships….we met pretty soon for drinks after he sent me a message (a really nice one, one that indicated he had ACTUALLY read my profile) and emailed back and forth quite a bit in between dates. Didn’t really text much until we started dating-dating.
I started online dating in August 2012 and met him right after Hurricane Sandy. Our five-year date-aversary is this Friday, actually. Before I met him, I went on a slew of first dates, and handful of second & third dates, and even had a guy as a booty call.
I never used online dating on a smart phone, though, it was all computer-based. The change in format, the immediacy of it, would make it considerably different today, me thinks. Using only a website made it easier to ignore, not get so wrapped up in.
I agree with everyone (minus Janelle) so I don’t have too much else to add.
This is going to sound harsh, yet I’m hoping to help you see through the fog of how you are being manipulated: Why on earth does his mother have any say in how you parent your child, especially as it pertains to something so personal like religious belief? You are the mother. She is not. She doesn’t get a vote.
ETA: What Ron just said.
@Ale I’m a lurker on this thread but I wanted to add…
You are doing SO well. You got this, girl. You’ve made the hardest move already, the no-contact order. You’re going to get through this.
When my last relationship dissolved, my ex was doing what yours is. It really fucked with my emotional well-being and it took me SIX MONTHS to gather the strength to demand he stop talking to me (I’m still working on why I allowed myself to be so emotionally masochistic). Those were the worst six months of my life because I was so desperate to cling onto something that wasn’t going to happen and he was so afraid that I would consider him a bad person. But he was a bad person – a chaotic alcoholic who cheated on me for months.
RE: texting between dates — I internet dated in 2012 (met my husband on OKC) and found myself overwhelmed by guys who texted too much in between dates. In those early stages, I much preferred email that would say something like, “Had a great time! Would love to see you again (blahblahblah)” to text so that I wasn’t constantly accessible to someone I didn’t know at all. I’m the type of person who is only comfortable texting with someone I am close to, not a stranger.
Too much communication too soon made me think a guy was coming on too strong. I actually cancelled a second date because one guy wouldn’t stop texting. I found it unappealing, like he had no other life.
Internet dating success story: In July, I am marrying a man I met on OKCupid.
Agree with booknerd. DO NOT SMOKE. REPEAT: DO NOT SMOKE.
DO NOT TAN. DO NOT TAN. My younger sister was a chronic teenage tanner and at the tender age of 24 had to have a serious cancerous mole removed from her back.
Yes to sunscreen. @Veritek, same here. I’m 33, religiously have used 50 SPF, and people think I am in my early to mid twenties. But…I also don’t have kids so I’m sure that has something to do with it, too.
I have three siblings and we are all two years apart. We, for the most part, all got along as children. My sisters are my best friends!
Sarah, good luck on your journey. I hope you find the inner peace that you seek.
