It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing today. After the jump, we hear from “Intern Love” whose letter appeared in a shortcuts column when she asked why this guy who she dated for a few weeks while he was in her town for an internship had suddenly seemed to lose interest once he returned home. Keep reading to see whether she’s still hung up on him.
I was so torn up over that guy. You were correct when you said to stop driving myself insane. I was driving myself insane with questions and guilt and pain — over someone I knew for only a month and a half!! I am not proud of what came over me for him, but I think it is because the passion and desire was so intense. I had never had a relationship like that. Nor do I want one again. I am happy to report that I am over him and happy once again. Soon after I wrote the letter to you I got myself together. I felt like I learned from the relationship about what I was missing from my life and that I wanted a true and steady boyfriend, one whom I could eventually marry and deeply love. So, I created a eHarmony profile and about a month in to it I met a great guy. He is my boyfriend now and he lives in my area. We have a great relationship that is growing at a normal pace. Thank you for telling me to MOA and to stop driving myself insane! — Intern love no more
Glad to hear things are going well. Sometimes people just need to hear someone else say it’s time to MOA!
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.