It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Am I Being a Bridezilla?” whose matron-of-honor hated the dress color the LW chose and accused her of trying to make her look bad in it. “She hasn’t yet said ‘change the color or I’m out,’ but it’s kind of headed that way. I’d ideally like to preserve our relationship and her role in the wedding as well as the wedding color we both like, but I’m not seeing a good way to do that and would love an outsider perspective.” Her update, below.
To be honest, it feels like we are planning for nothing. I’m in the midwest and our state is seeing an increase in cases again, so I feel like 11 months is not far enough away to be able to have the wedding we envisioned. I’ve told the bridesmaids to wait until the very last chance to order because I have a feeling we are going to be forced to rethink things and I don’t want any of them out any money for nothing. We shall see. But at least Sue is feeling good about the color and her dress options.
I’m glad you cleared the air, and I’m sorry that there’s so much uncertainty as you plan your wedding. I think Sue could be a better/more supportive friend than projecting her anxiety onto you and making a fuss about the color of her dress even as you give her options for alternate colors. Maybe now that she’s named the anxiety and her husband has reminded her that your wedding isn’t about her, she will chill out. Fingers crossed.
If you’re someone I’ve given advice to in the past, I’d love to hear from you, too. Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org with a link to the original post, and let me know whether you followed the advice and how you’re doing now.
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