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I’m 33 years old and I’ve been seeing my 48-year-old boyfriend for four months. At first he called frequently and we would spend lots of time together, but he recently moved his 17-year-old daughter in with him so that he could be a full-time parent and that has changed our relationship. He says she has issues with putting off schoolwork so he has to stay on her. This and her extracurricular activities seem to take up all his time now. Additionally, I have not met any of his friends, family, or his daughter yet. Even worse, he doesn’t call and show attention like he did in the beginning. I’ve talked to him…

A year and eight months ago I met a girl who was in a long-distance relationship. When we met, it was instant attraction, and we hooked up on our first date and kept hooking up! At the time she said she wanted to keep it purely platonic, meaning physical, and that’s how we continued for the following three months. I could tell that we both had started falling for each other. Then she told me her relationship with her boyfriend had ended, and we kept seeing each other. We spent New Year’s and Valentine’s Day together, and then she, in a very indirect way, asked me to keep “my magic” for her…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. My boyfriend adds all these woman from different countries on Facebook. Recently, one tagged him in a porno video. Not only did he block it, but he deleted her. I wrote most of the chicks on there asking if they would delete him and they did, but he keeps adding more people he doesn’t know and it bothers me. Most of…

I have been dating a man, “Dan,” for one year. He is lovely. He is a widower whose his wife died nine years ago of liver disease. He has two grown daughters (24 and 27 years old). They still live at home in the same house they grew up in that their parents bought together twenty-six years ago. I have NOT met his daughters yet. Dan says that he “doesn’t want to have any problems.” I was not invited to Thanksgiving or Christmas or his 60th birthday party. I discussed these events with him and expressed my dismay and sadness at not being included, and again the “reasoning” was that he “doesn’t…

I’m a 39-year-old male who’s been in a relationship with a 35-year-old woman for about a year and nine months. Up until the end of February, we had been talking about moving in together in May. I had said yes. I was into it . . . but, as the date when we’d have to notify our respective landlords of our intention to vacate came closer, I started to feel a lot of doubt. A day before we would have had to give our notice, I told my girlfriend I wasn’t ready. She was incredibly hurt that I suddenly reversed course. I did mean it when I said all those things to…

I have been married two years to the most amazing man, and we have a 15-month-old son together. Last night I was using his phone and I noticed some conversations opened. When I clicked on them, I noticed he was sexting girls things like: “Send me something good” and “My pants are getting tight.” There were multiple conversations with four different girls. To make matters worse, two of the girls were my supposed friends. Needless to say, my heart sank into my stomach; I couldn’t even look at the entire conversations. When I confronted him, he apologized and said that he would never physically cheat on me — that it was something…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

I grew up in a very open household. My parents were very adamant about raising my brother and me to be tolerant people. We learned about different religions (though we grew up loosely Catholic), different cultures, and were taught to treat people equally and kindly. I always valued my upbringing and always say that the way my parents raised me allowed me to have a much broader and accepting worldview than those that were much more close-minded and judgmental in the small town where I grow up. Having said that, in the past few years, my parents have gone through some extended family issues and as a result, have gotten extremely involved…

I’m a guy who loves wearing panties and lingerie, but my wife is very against this. My question is: How I should talk to her about it? She thinks our daughter is going to find out later in life. I can’t and won’t stop wearing them, and I need to find a solution with my wife. Any advice?? — Cross-Dresser