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Several years ago I met a guy in college. We were good friends for a while but eventually ended up falling out of touch. About a year ago he sent me a message asking how I’d been, and we began to catch up. He’s in the military, so our contact stayed limited to FaceTiming, texting, and Facebook. Five months ago he came home for a few weeks and we went out on some dates. We hit it off wonderfully and decided to give a long-distance relationship a shot. He came home again recently and I don’t think we could have had a better time; it’s become clear that we love each other…

Nearly three years ago, I divorced the man I’d been with for over ten years. The very next night at a party I met what was supposed to simply be a rebound. On our third date, as I was trying to figure how to tell him I was going through a divorce, he dropped a bomb on me: he was going through a divorce as well. Great! Neither of us is emotionally available so no one can get hurt here, right? In typical rebound fashion, things moved very fast, but I’d never met anyone like this guy. Within our four-month relationship, we were together nearly every day, and we saw each other…

“My boyfriend and I have be seeing each other for seven months. When we met, he was still living in his family home but assured me that his marriage was over.”

I am 28 and I’m in a serious relationship with another woman who is 30. She has an 11-year-old son from a past marriage and has been divorced for 10 years. She mostly had long-term relationships with men and a couple of flings with women. I am her most serious lesbian relationship. We are deeply in love with each other and she has said she wants to marry me someday. We live together in my house. We have been together for 8 months and things have been mostly wonderful. My biggest issue with her is that she won’t come out to her son and refuses to even discuss it with me. Her…

“I haven’t always had a good relationship with my sister-in-law, but it got better for a while. Then, when I told her I was pregnant, she didn’t wish me congratulations.”

For New Year’s Eve my friends and I want to go to a party so we can dance and have fun, but my boyfriend wants me to spend it with him and his friends at his home, which I think is kind of boring because, instead of dancing, we will be drinking and I don’t know his friends that well. I tried to convince him to come with me (my friends want that too) and he said he will but he will not have fun because it’s not his kind of party and, of course, that will make me feel bad. He was also saying that it would be better if we…

“I’m in a great relationship with a guy I love. We have been together a year and a half and have talked about the future a lot, but there’s one problem.”

My husband and I have been married for several years now. He wasn’t sure he wanted kids when we first started dating, but by the time we got married he said he thought he would probably agree to them at some point. I was pretty sure I wanted at least one, but not 100% sure. We had (and still have) a great relationship, so I figured we’d work it out–and we got married. About two years ago, he said he was ready to have a baby. I was too, so I was delighted. We agreed that we would only have one. We discussed it and thought that would best fit our lifestyle,…