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I got married to Dan at 18 and right after graduation, and one year and two months later I gave birth to our daughter, Katie. Six months after she was born, Dan and I separated and his contract with the military was up. I allowed Katie to live primarily with him because he lived with his parents once we moved off base and I didn’t feel like my living situation was stable enough for her. His parents are wealthy and he was a great dad. I did the right thing for Katie, but I struggled with finances and keeping even a waitress job. My emotional state became more and more deteriorated and…

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Early last year I developed extremely strong feelings (characterized in other ways as a straight girl crush) on a colleague in the same work section as me. The feelings are platonic, not sexual. She is married and I am engaged. When I first became aware that I had feelings for this person, I was really scared. For much of last year I tried to put on an indifferent attitude so that she wouldn’t show me much interest. I think in the process I was very callous/rude, and towards the tail end of last year I could tell that she had given up and, further, had probably confided her frustrations to her group…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

Letter deleted per request of the LW. The gist is that after moving to her new husband’s european country, she was weirded out by the very familiar relationship he had with his sister, whom he shared a bathroom with, walked around naked in front of, kissed on the lips,and suggested having a foursome with. Oh, and the LW was pregnant and due any day.

I’m not crazy about my sister’s fiancé, but he treats her well so I have never been “against” their relationship, and I have made a sincere effort over the years to be friendly with him. Our personalities clash and I don’t believe we will ever be good friends, but, up until now, we have gotten along just fine. They got engaged in April of last year. My sister is in vet school and wants to wait until she is done to get married, so it’s a somewhat long-term engagement. I was single the entire time (two years) they were together (dated some guys, but nothing stuck), and over that time the fiancé…