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I’ve been in a relationship for just over five years with the most amazing woman I have ever met. We are madly in love, but she has been offered a job in another state and she wants me to come live with her. My dilemma is that I have joint custody of my 15-year-old son. I feel that he would be mature enough to understand why I would move, but I’m conflicted because I don’t want him to later feel like I abandoned him. I’ve talked with my parents and they are saying that, “We support whatever you do,” which is not helping me. My ex is dead-set against me moving, but…

I am a 48-year-old independent woman who has thrown caution to the wind and lived in different locations and had different careers over the past 20 years. A year and a half ago, I moved back to my home state and in with my dad to pursue a stable career and spend time with family and close friends. No regrets, it’s been the best decision of my life so far. Now comes my dilemma. Upon my moving home, an old boyfriend whom I dated 20 years ago started pursuing me. We have been together ever since. It was so much fun and his family loves me and I love them. They are…

“I feel I am justified in not inviting her as she seems to not want anything to do with our baby (or us).”

I’m a junior in high school, and I got pregnant recently by my current boyfriend. We found out about three weeks ago. What I didn’t tell my boyfriend is that I had an abortion just a few days ago. He and his family begged me not to go through with it and, though I didn’t want to either, considering all the circumstances, it NEEDED to be done. My boyfriend and I are both still in school (although he only has a year left of college). We had relationship issues a little while back because he got naked pictures from another girl when drunk and, before that, he also made out with another…

Two years ago I began dating a man with whom I get on extremely well. We took the relationship slowly even though we really liked each other from the start. He has a grown child from a relationship, and I have two teenagers still at home. We introduced each other to our children after six months of dating and everyone gets along well, so there are no conflicts there. At the beginning of our relationship we shared our dating histories. He is 55 and I am 48. His background of never being married was a little worrisome to me because I wondered if he was a commitment-phobic person. He has been completely…

“My boyfriend insists that the kids only know their parents are getting divorced and he’s afraid that, if he introduces me, they will hate him for having a girlfriend.”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for over two years now, and we’ve been happily living together for almost that long. He has been complaining about his job and colleagues for a few months now, though, and has been talking about finding a new job. He might have found one, over 200 miles away, and he wants to take it, knowing very well that I can’t move right now seeing as I am completing a bachelor’s degree. He says we’ll see each other on weekends. He says long distance might break us up, but that that’s a risk we have to take. He wants me to move there with him after I graduate,…