Since tomorrow’s a holiday, I’m going to take the day off from posting, so we’re doing Shortcuts today. For every question I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
I need some advice. I’ve been married for six years and I’m so unhappy. What do I do? — Unhappily Married
It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today we hear from “Seeking Tough Love” who wrote in back in May of 2012 wondering if she should give her abusive ex-boyfriend another chance and whether she should consider moving in with him in October. She updated once before, saying she’d gotten back together and broken up with her boyfriend once again. Still, she kept wondering if he could change and whether they could be happy together in the long run. Her last update was almost two years ago. Keep…
I’m pregnant with my first baby and my mother and I are having a bit of friction lately as my due date approaches. I had expressed to her that my partner and I didn’t intend to baptize our daughter as we don’t follow the Christian faith and don’t intend to bring her to church as part of her upbringing (unless, when she is old enough to make the choice, she decides to go and then we would support her choice). At this point, our discussion has turned into an argument. I explained that we weren’t any more likely to baptize our daughter than we are to marry in a church — it’s…
I have been with my boyfriend for about six months now and we have practically been living together for four months. We’ve decided to move in together in August once both of our leases are up. A few weeks ago he told me that one of his ex-girlfriends from when he was in the Air Force a few years ago messaged him, and she’s getting a divorce and told him he should “hit her up some time.” It is very clear on Instagram that we are in a relationship, so I’m confused as to why she would do that to begin with. He said he wanted me to know that it happened…
I am pregnant by my ex and I have started seeing someone else. My ex wants nothing to do with me since he left me for my best friend. I am afraid that my new boyfriend won’t be able to handle my being pregnant by my ex. He already thinks of my one son as his own and says he wants to start a family of his own with me. How do I handle this? I’m so scared and confused. I don’t want to keep the baby from his father or grandmother, but they don’t want anything to do with me. Please help. — Pregnant by Ex
My boyfriend and I have been living together for the past year, and we recently traveled out of state to attend my oldest sibling’s wedding. My parents always pay for my youngest sibling’s airfare because she is still college-aged and needs the help. In an attempt to be fair, my parents paid for my airfare to the wedding too. While I didn’t consider their help to be a secret, I also didn’t mention this fact to my boyfriend until it came up in conversation last night. I had booked our flights at the same time using my parent’s credit card, and, when he gave me the money for his flight, I passed…
My fiancé and I have been together for just over three years. I’m 29, and he is 37. We have both been married previously. I have one son from my previous marriage; he has no children. My ex-husband and I are very civil towards each other, and, for the most part, get along fairly well. Problem #1: My son is 7 and although he and my fiancé mostly get along well, there are times when they will argue about useless stuff. My son is very bright, and he likes to over-explain things to make sure people understand what he’s talking about. My fiancé takes that as arguing, so he gets mad. Example:…
I have been dating my girlfriend for a year and a half. I am 47, divorced, no kids. She is 46, divorced, with a 6-year-old daughter. I am into fitness and am physically fit, and she is about 50 pounds overweight. Having such a young child and being so overweight were two things right from the beginning that I knew would bother me. But she is a wonderful woman and has such a big heart, and she treats me well. I decided to look at the big picture and see if I could look past her weight and the challenges that come with dating someone having a little kid. Since we always…
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