“It’s Been Nine Years and My Much Younger Girlfriend Still Won’t Tell Her Parents About Us”

I’ve been in a relationship with a woman for nine years. I’m 60 and she’s 34. She’s always had to try to make sure her parents didn’t find out about us and she feels guilty as she’s usually very honest. I’ve been living 50 miles away and she is in a rented accommodation, or was until recently. Now she’s moved back with parents as her flat-mates left and she can’t afford to rent on her own. I’ve not been able to move near her as I was trying to finish four barns that I’m developing. And neither of us wants to live at my place. Now I’m in a position to move…

“Did My Friend Just Ask Me to Not Be Her Bridesmaid Anymore?”

Earlier this year a college friend I’d recently reconnected with asked me to be in her wedding party. I live in Chicago, but the wedding is in a different part of the country over Memorial Day weekend, 2015. I happily said “yes!” as long as she was okay with me possibly not making it to the rehearsal dinner. My work has a weird policy where we aren’t normally allowed to take a day off before or after a three-day weekend. My friend said she would be totally fine with me letting her know later. Then she mailed me a Pinterest-inspired welcoming package complete with a tight pink tank top with “Bridesmaid” bedazzled…

“Neither of Us Wants Kids, But What if One of Us Changes Our Mind?”

I’m 29 and, after over a decade of dating, I’ve found the man I’m meant to be with. We have a supportive, loving, honest relationship that’s full of laughter and respect. For me, Brandon is truly the kind of person you encourage your readers to be with. He cares about things because I care about them, he considers me in his life plans, we have a lot of fun together, we have similar values, and, even when we fight, it’s fair and honest (and doesn’t last long). We’re doing long distance right now, but it’s been going as well as can be expected; we Skype daily, see each other at least every…

“His Daughter Has Him Wrapped Around Her Little Finger”

There’s a guy I had a huge crush on in my teens. We dated a few times back then and broke up. After a few years, I moved away. Many years later, I ran into him at a restaurant when I came home to visit. My sister told me his wife had passed away from cancer and he had a one-year-old daughter. I was so surprised because I didn’t know he had even been married. He said hello at the restaurant, and that was the last time I heard from him until I joined a Christian dating app a few years later. He found me on there and we went out on…

“My Boyfriend Lets People Believe He’s My Husband… and I Wish He Didn’t”

I have a terrific boyfriend. We move together very smoothly when we’re alone as well as when we’re in large social gatherings, church, political events, film sets, etc. We’re basically together most of the time, and it’s all good. We seem like we’ve been together forever. In reality, it’s been sixteen months. My problem is when people assume then that we’re married. We’re both in our fifties, so maybe that’s why it happens so often. People will ask me something about my “husband,” and he’ll get the “your wife” question. This doesn’t bother him at all; he just continues the conversation as though we’re married. I feel impelled to clarify every time…

In Other Words: “When Should You Mention You’re in an Open Relationship?”

This letter is from a recent Savage Love column and it reminded me of our conversation last week about open relationships. I’m curious what your thoughts are on this issue and what your advice would be to the LW. I am wondering when the best time is to mention being in an open relationship to new girls. I’m a 27-year-old straight guy who’s been in an open relationship for six years. I often seek out extracurricular activities, but I am unsure of how to bring up my situation without doors closing. I wrote to a seduction blogger who often writes about open relationships, and his advice was to not mention it until…

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