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My boyfriend’s daughter, “Kelly,” is getting married and sent her dad and me an invitation. Her dad and I have a child together, a result of our extra-marital affair. My boyfriend’s ex, “Natalie,” of course, hates me and blames me for everything. I recently found a text where she called me and my three kids derogatory names. I was so hurt when I discovered this text because it was there in black and white how much she hates me. At least Kelly shows me affection although for the past couple months since she moved with her mom she’s been very distant. Anyway, Kelly invited me to her wedding. I want to go,…

I’m 21 and my 19-year-old boyfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. To make a long story short, he no longer wanted to be in a relationship. Since then we have been texting almost every day and FaceTiming (only). Even though he maintains that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, when we are together it feels like we never broke up. He even looks in my eyes and tells me multiple times that he loves me. Part of me thinks that I should stop talking to him because he stated that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. However, the other part of me truly believes…

My husband and I have been married for five years and we have two boys (age 2 and 4). We met when he was in the military stationed in my home town of Pensacola, FL. My husband is an Ohio boy, born and raised, and when he separated from the military his first reaction was to move back home. At the time of his separation he was going through a lot and really wanted to be somewhere familiar. I love my husband, so before even thinking of myself I agreed to move. A year after moving to Ohio I realize how much I want to go back home. Our relationship is suffering…

About eight months ago I got out of an abusive relationship that left me with social anxiety and few friends. For the past month or two an old acquaintance from high school and I have been getting to know each other better as we both work for the same company. “John” has been inviting me over with increasing frequency to hang out with some other guys I was acquaintances with in high school (I just graduated college). I’m so happy! I feel like I’ve been accepted into the group. We mostly get together to play video games or drink beer. Recently, we all had a fun night of playing drinking games around…

“I am 63 and my boyfriend is 68 years old. We’ve been in a relationship for 1 1/2 years and may consider marriage soon. But my problem is he has a single ‘play sister’…”

My hubby’s friends are taking hubby out for dinner this Friday night. I’m sure their wives are going also. My hubby didn’t say I was invited and doesn’t want to ask if he could bring me. I’m embarrassed that he does not invite me or ask his friends if I can join him. Should I just accept it and not say anything? I’m hurt and offended, but it is his birthday dinner and his friends. (We usually go out to events with these friends, too). I guess hubby really couldn’t care less if I’m not invited. — No Invite from Hubby  

I’ve been in a relationship with a wonderful woman for 4-1/2 years, but we are at a crossroads and cannot get past it. The short story is we can’t agree on where to live. I don’t want to move to her town and have a 1-1/2-hour commute to work for the next 17 years until I retire, and she doesn’t want to move her girls out of their school district (they’re in school another 7 years). I have a son who is going to college next year and moving would create the same commute for him that I would have with my work. I have asked my girlfriend to plan a move…

I am in a relationship with someone I met October of last year. Through March, I have paid for 99% of everything that we do, like dinners, vacations, going out, etc. I make about $50K a year. She makes $140K a year but moved to our area last July and built a house and needed to save a lot of money for closing, the move, etc. Note: she has a dog and, because of that, I’ve done all of the commuting to her apartment, and now to her house, since October. She’s been to my apartment twice in eight months because of the dog situation. So, you can see I’ve made enormous…