It’s time for Wedding Week Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
My fiancée will not introduce me to her friends and co-workers as her fiancé – she introduces me as “her friend.” I tried to explain to her that it’s not an insecurity issue for me, but I like that “fiancé” lets folks know where we are in our relationship. She has been divorced twice, and I am a widower who was married for 34 years and lost my wife to cancer. With my fiancée’s previous marriage, she claims she would introduce him as “Steve” and not her husband, Steve. I have always introduced her as my fiancée and am proud of her. Am I wrong with my concerns with the way she…
When my fiancé and I got engaged earlier this year, we decided to keep the news to ourselves for a while. For one, we had just started living together after I moved across the country for him and I was already under a lot of stress trying to find a job. The other reason is that, while we knew his family would be thrilled, mine probably would not. Basically, we wanted some “us” time to process what marriage meant to us before being flung into the craziness that is wedding-planning (and I’m glad we did it!). Two weeks ago we announced our engagement to our parents. I wrote a letter to his…
“I just found out that people who are special to me, and who I thought would feel happy to be part of our lives, aren’t going to our destination wedding.”
Recently, I caught my wife of two months (partner of 14 months) in a few devastating lies. “Sarah” and I have known each other since we were five years old. We lost touch after the 8th grade and both found each other early last year after our respective divorces. While we were in the dating phase of our relationship, Sarah was very self-conscious about her weight. She assured me that she would lose the weight which she claimed she gained while taking medication to help conceive a child. Sarah showed me multiple photos of what she used to look like. Although I had no issue with the way she currently looked, she…
“Sandra’s bridal shower is coming up (a big shower with lots of girls) and I RSVPed that I was going, but my husband made plans with his family…”
It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great that being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.
Advice for a woman whose partner wants kids but she isn’t sure she wants them.
I am a 38-year-old female in a wonderful relationship with my fiancé for the last 4 years. We live together in Melbourne, where we bought a house, and are planning to get married next year. I have no complaints about my relationship with him and am quite happy. The trouble is that I am an only child, and my parents, both in their 70s, live in India, and I see them for just a few weeks every year. I also have a 6-year-old god-daughter who is the light of my life and is very close to me. Of late, she has been missing me a lot and asking why I can’t live…
“Recently, my girlfriend and I split up. Since then, I’ve written sweet notes to her, praying she’s alright and telling her how much I missed her and her son.”
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