“We’re About to Have a Baby, But Our Relationship is a Mess”

I met a girl on a dating app last July and we started talking and flirting. We had both just come out of bad relationships and originally only wanted a friendship from each other. A couple of months down the line we decided to have a go at a long distance relationship. Being 21, this was my first serious relationship and, at 25, her second. I was having problems coping with the distance and rekindled a friendship with a former lover and we exchanged raunchy messages. This continued, on and off, for the first eight months of my relationship with my girlfriend. Now, she and I are having a baby in two…

“I’m Jealous of My Boyfriend’s Kids”

I am 28, never been married, have a great job, a masters degree, and have been told I am “attractive.” I have been with my 38-year-old boyfriend for about 13 months now. He was married for 13 years and has three biological children (21, 19, and 17) and an adopted daughter turning 7 (he is divorced because his ex cheated on him and got pregnant but he decided to adopt the child so that she would have a father and to maintain parental continuity in his family). He has been divorced for six years, I’m his first serious girlfriend since, and we talk about marriage all the time. Initially, I never thought…

Updates: “Overwhelmed in a LDR” Responds

It’s time again for “Dear Wendy Updates,” a feature where people I’ve given advice to in the past let us know whether they followed the advice and how they’re doing now. Today, we hear from “Overwhelmed in a LDR” who quickly began a LDR with a European man she met while he was visiting the states on vacation. After getting engaged, things went south when the distance began to feel insurmountable, they couldn’t agree on where to live, and the LW began cheating on her fiancé. “I have all these doubts in my head,” she wrote, “but I can’t deny how in love I am and that I still see a future…

“I Have a Brain Tumor and My Ex is Picking Fights With Me”

I’m a 24-year-old woman and my on-again-off-again girlfriend (20) and I are currently “off” after a rocky, two-year relationship. This past year we have been long distance and can no longer visit each other. I have a brain tumor and am undergoing treatment, and she works and goes to classes. Before my diagnosis we agreed we love each other and would like to try to work things out; then, I got diagnosed and we decided to wait until my treatment is done. In the meantime, we are in constant contact. She is working on her degree and I’m doing lots of community volunteer work to help keep me sane before I get…

“Should I Skip My Cousin’s Wedding?”

Growing up, I was very close with my cousins. I was especially close with my cousin Annie because we were around the same age. When we were 9 or so our parents shipped us all off to summer camp. When we returned, we discovered that her parents had divorced. Her mother had thrown my uncle out of their house and moved her boyfriend in. She also let my uncle take the kids and all of them moved in with us for a while where my parents ended up raising them, for the most part. My uncle suffered from severe alcoholism, which I assume was the underlying cause of the divorce. Things got…

Your Turn: “I Think My Boyfriend Is Going to Cheat on Me”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for three years. I recently moved in with him after being in long distance relationship for a year. Although I am happy living in the same apartment with him, there are two things that bother me. The first is that he cheated on his previous girlfriends. Even though it was a long time ago, I am not convinced that he is remorseful about his actions. The second issue I have is that his close friend, Chris, cheats…

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