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My friend Lacy and I were seated next to each other at our friend’s wedding reception. After dinner but before cake (I remember because I missed cake!), out of the blue, under the guise of being a “concerned friend,” Lacy tore into me. She began criticizing me about things that were none of her business and things she did not even have direct knowledge of. She called me pathetic and claimed to be worried about me because in the last two weeks I had slept with my ex-boyfriend (not true), made out with a married guy at a bar (true), and tried to get another guy at a bar to go home…

I’m 21 years old and my boyfriend of a year is 24. My best friends in the whole world whom I’ve known since I was 14 are planning to travel to Vegas for spring break this year. I’ve never done anything for spring break and this is my senior year of college. But when I brought it up to my boyfriend, he said, “No.” At the time, he planned a trip to Virginia for us two, and his father gave us his condo to stay in for four days. The night before we left for Virginia I brought Vegas up again and he’s said: “If you’re going to Vegas, tell me now…

I’m 29 years old and a single mother of one. I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about three years now, on and off. Usually, I’m the one to break it off. And each time I do he comes running back as if he cannot live with out me. I am a church-going person, as is he; he actually plays instruments at his church. We both attend our own respective churches every Sunday, and I’m upset that he has never brought me to his church and he has never introduced me to his family. I have questioned him about it before and he gives me lame excuses like he’s not ready to take…

I told my boyfriend to pay for half of my birth control pills, but he thinks that’s unfair because [he assumes that] we’d only be having sex 3-4 times for the whole month. I told him that, even though we would be having sex 3-4 times, he’s still benefiting from the contraception. What do you think I should do? I can’t use condoms instead of using birth control pills as the pills help me regulate my hormones and shrink my cysts. — BC Question

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’ve been in a relationship with my fiancée for a year and engaged for six months. I was married once before, and my ex-wife was unfaithful three separate times with ex-lovers, which is why we divorced (two years ago). On my first date with my now-fiancée we talked of relationship expectations and I explained I had major reservations about keeping company with ex-lovers, whether it be talking, texting, or seeing one another. She said all the right things: “That’s not me, that’s wrong to do, I…