“What Should I Say If He Proposes?”

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost six years, and I just found out that he bought a ring and plans to propose soon. I’m excited, but, at the same time, he hasn’t been a very good boyfriend for a while. For instance, he has been *trying* to propose for several months, but he always “has too much work” or is “too tired.” We are also long distance (three hours apart), and he NEVER drives to see me. Well, last semester he drove to see me three times and I drove to see him 15 or 16 times. In two weekends I have two major events for which I’m an organizer…

“My Boyfriend Sleeps With Tons of Other Women!”

I have been in a relationship with a guy for six years. He is 62 years old and I am 51. We did a whole lot together for the first three years or so, traveling and just being together. He has a home in another country, and we also went there. When we met, he told me that he leads a complicated life, with two divorces and two children behind him. He told me he had a dependency type of set-up with a woman he had known 20 years and was still half house-sharing with, as well as staying in his own home almost next door. The other item he mentioned was…

“She Dumped Me, But I Can’t Let Her Go”

I’m from Canada and and my girlfriend of three years is from France. We’re presently located in New Zealand on working holiday visas, after finishing a year long excursion in Australia. She’s mentioned to me on occasion that she wants to move back to France to be with her family but I want to move to Canada. Neither one of us is willing to compromise moving to one place or the other. She hates the Canadian winters. I wouldn’t feel particularly comfortable living in France (I don’t speak the language and the one time I visited, I saw it as more of a holiday destination). We’ve had several conversations about the topic…

Quickies: “My Wedding’s a Month Away and I Have Cold Feet”

My wedding is just a month away and I’m not sure I want to marry my fiancé. He is loving, considerate, respectful, and hard working. However, he has some minor and major issues that concern me about our future. Firstly, when we go for a walk, he will almost always walk a foot or two ahead of me. I don’t ask him to hold my hand, but would like him to at least walk beside me and talk to me. Secondly, he is extremely attached to his family. His mom, dad, brother, and sister-in-law live two minutes away from us and visit us EVERY DAY. His mother comments on everything we do…

“Being My Husband’s Caregiver is Exhausting”

I am hoping that you and your wonderful community of commenters can help me. I have been married for seven years now, my husband and I are both in our mid-50s, and we each have a grown son. Both boys did their time in the Marine Corps and are on their own elsewhere in the country. Four years ago, my husband had an accident at work that crushed two vertebrae in his back and broke his hip. Due to multiple complications like a heart attack a year later and long-term diabetes, he is pretty much wheelchair-bound now. While he can take up to 20 steps with a walker, he is incapable of…

“My Ex Is Way Too Attached to My Kids”

I dated my ex for two years and we broke up about ten months ago. He is not the father of my kids but he told his current girlfriend that she has no choice in the matter of my kids being in his life and vice versa. The interesting thing is that my kids don’t call him or even ask for him; maybe they just take him for granted. My son is a teenager and understood that my ex and I broke up and have tried to stay friends. My four-year-old never cried for him when we seperated but speaks of him as an distant friend. When my ex calls he will…

Quickie: “He Took Me To Australia and Didn’t Propose!”

I’ve been with my boyfriend for two years and six months. Lately, we have had lots of arguments and he started to change and now he is moving out. It started after he took me to meet his parents in Australia. We had talked about marriage with his family and we agreed to get married next year and now all of a sudden he’s telling me he is not ready and he wants space to think! But I have seen the engagement ring in the wardrobe for about a year. Don’t you think that’s odd? Anyway, he is moving out now and trying to be all nice until he goes. Do you…

Your Turn: “I Got Married At 18 and Now I Want Out”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: Three years ago I married my husband. Our situation is definitely weird. I had just turned 18 when we met. He was 20. We only dated about a month and a half before we got engaged. He asked me to marry him a week or so before he left for basic training in the army and he was gone the first few months we were married so we never spent time together. He shortly realized he didn’t want the army life and got out. Since then,…

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