“I’m Caught in the Middle of a Cheating Scandal”

I dated my childhood best friend — let’s call him Dan — for a few years during high school and college. We were both kind of immature — I was selfish and he was very needy and insecure (example: he would get upset if other guys wrote on my Facebook wall). Needless to say, the relationship did not last, but we made sure that the friendship did because we had such a long history. A year later, he met a very sweet girl, Ana, who was perfect for him, and a year after that, I met my now husband, Phil. At the very beginning of my relationship with Phil, I found out that…

“My Husband Dismisses My Feminist Beliefs”

My husband is 26 and I am 25. We’ve been married for three and a half years and together as a couple for over ten years. We have no children and no plans for children. My husband is many things – smart, ambitious, confident, resourceful, charismatic, responsible – but one thing he is not is a feminist. Despite being liberal in most respects (he is pro-choice, pro-equal pay, pro-sex-ed, etc.), he can be so, so traditional about a lot of issues. When we started dating as teens, I had barely scratched the surface of feminism. It wasn’t until I was in college and beyond (right around the time we got married) that…

“Can My Interracial Relationship Work in the South?”

I have been dating this really great guy for the past six months. We met at church, he knows I’m a divorced mother of two and he is someone who has never been married and who has no kids. At first we took things really slowly; however, now things are starting to progress and he is talking about having a future with me and my kids. For instance, he has discussed with me the number of kids he would like me to have for him since he doesn’t have any of his own. We discussed where we would get married. We discussed how my kids would interact with him as they become…

“I’ve Fallen for my FWB’s Best Friend!”

“Tim” and “Seamus,” my recent FWB, have been best friends since high school. They are now in their late twenties and have been living together for six years. I met Seamus about two years ago in a community that we both belong to and we have become good friends. About six months ago, Seamus and I confessed our long-held, poorly-concealed attraction to each other and began a friends-with-benefits (FWB) kind of situation. Neither of us wanted to date; I’d just gotten out of a year-long relationship, and he was at a bit of a transitional point in his career and life. In the beginning of our friendship, Seamus and I started having…

“Do I have to Invite My Best Friend’s Boyfriend to My Party?”

Among my larger social group/community there’s a select 15-20 really good friends that I’d like to invite to my home for a private summer party. I know I could go to most of them and say, “This is invite-only, keep this hush hush” and I trust I will only have said respectable, responsible people on my property. My concern is one individual in particular. He’s a roommate of two of the people I want to invite, a work colleague of another, and probably most importantly my best friend’s boyfriend. I simply don’t like him or how he and my friend alienate themselves as a couple and avoid any sort of social interaction…

“He Wants Me To Take His Name, But I Want to Keep Mine”

My wedding is in three months and I have serious doubts about changing my name. Coming from a somewhat traditional family, I always assumed when I got my married I’d take my husband’s name, just like my mom and sister, but the closer the wedding gets, the less I want to drop my last name. It’s part of my identity, it signifies my heritage and connects me to my family. I’m not far enough along in my career where I NEED to keep my maiden name, so that’s not an issue. More than anything, it’s an emotional urge – I just don’t want to drop my maiden name. I don’t even want…

“The Bride’s Not in Love With Her Groom”

So, I am a bridesmaid in the wedding of my best friend, who lives about 900 miles away. A couple weeks ago I visited her to attend her bridal shower. I’ve known things weren’t going great in her relationship, but I didn’t realize how bad they really were. She told me that she loves her fiancé as a person, but she is not in love with him. What she’s known all along about him — that he lacks maturity, is extremely insecure, and is not motivated on the career front — really bothers her. And she feels like during their entire relationship he has held her back from new experiences. She has…

“My Boyfriend Was Not Invited to the Wedding!”

My boyfriend of 2.5 years was excluded from my best friend’s daughter’s wedding. My BFF & I have been BFFs for over 41 years; I’ve known the bride since birth and have been as close as an auntie could be without the biological gene. This is an out-of-town affair — out-of-country, actually since it’s in Canada — requiring approximately $1,500 in travel expense to me. Until I received the invite addressed only to me, I would have crawled there if I had to. The bride is precious to me, and, though I have met the groom only once, he seems a super guy; they are a wonderful couple. The mother of the…

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