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For the past year I have had a casual fling with a guy from work. We began flirting, things escalated, and we ended up sleeping together. Things have never been awkward at work. We rarely see each other outside of work unless it’s a night out. So there are no dates, etc. My feelings for him have gotten really strong, and I’ve wanted things to progress. I’ve heard stories of him being a bit of a “manslag,” but none of this puts me off him. I won’t even go on a date with another guy because I feel so strongly about him. I have asked him how he feels, and he said…

I’m currently finishing college, but my story dates back to the very beginning of high school when I was in the same class as two boys — twin brothers. They were very shy guys with close to no female friends. However, because I’m kind of tomboy-ish and easy-going, I hit it off with them and we became close friends. I would go to their house to study and play games, etc., along with other guys. Soon, I began liking one of them. Let’s call him Adam. Months went by and most of my friends suspected Adam liked me back, but we always interacted in this more-than-friends but not boyfriend-girlfriend kind of grey zone….

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

From the forums: I’m almost 24 been in a long distance relationship for the past nine months (we haven’t met in person yet). We have no secrets from each other and always tell one another about everything in each of our lives. We love each other so much want to live together soon (he is going to move to me and live in my country in a month). The thing is, I started dating him a few days after I broke up with my ex, and during these nine months I keep checking my ex’s profile in any of his social media accounts. I do it out of curiosity. Some people say…

My sister has two young children. When the first one came, she seemed overwhelmed but managed with a lot of help from our mother. Now that the second has arrived she seems to have completely lost control. Her husband is a great father who loves my sister and adores the children. However, he has some shortcomings. His job situation is unstable and, while he tries to help around the house, he sometimes is a bit clueless and ends up messing things up more than helping. My sister has her faults too. She has a short temper and can be pretty demanding. Now, I know these things don’t seem that bad, but their…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

I just found out my brother and his wife are expecting their second child. To give you some background on why this situation is not as normal as it sounds, last year (before they were married) they broke up because she was doing hard drugs and cheating on him. It was very messy. “Horrific” may be a better word. They already have one child together (my niece), who is 2 1/2 years old. After the breakup, my SIL moved in to a crack house, continued doing drugs, filed a domestic violence restraining order against my brother in an attempt to get custody (which the judge promptly dismissed), and tried to break in…