Columns - Dear Wendy

Your Turn: “My Boyfriend’s Brother Tried to Sleep With Me!”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over 16 months now. We’ve overcome a lot of stuff, and we are doing better. But throughout the relationship, his brother has flirted with me on several occasions, even trying to get me in his bed at one point. I have flat-out refused him time and time again, but never said anything to my boyfriend until about two months ago. At first, he was shocked. But now he doesn’t care — he still talks to his brother and…

“I Cheated on My Boyfriend”

“I recently visited a guy friend of mine. After hanging out and getting a few drinks, I missed the last train back to my city and stayed over.”

Your Turn: “I’m Jealous of His Sexual Past”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a 19-year-old female and my boyfriend is 21. We have been committed to each other for 9 months (6 months of officially dating). We are a long distance couple and that, of course, is a huge problem for us — more so for him than for me. I am a virgin and he has had 16 partners (me being the 17th when we finally do meet) and that really bugs me. Is that normal? Why do you think I feel that way? Also, he’s…

“My Boyfriend is Too Close to His Ex In-Laws”

“I am dating a divorced dad with two teenage girls — 16 and 14. They come visit their dad every weekend, which means he’s less available to me.”

Your Turn: “I’m in a Miserable Marriage”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been unhappy since the day I got married. We got married when I was 20. We have been married for three years now. Unfortunately, when we made the decision to get married I was too naive to understand what I was getting into. My husband has a drug addiction and is very immature. We have been on-and-off since we started dating because he relapses. I shouldn’t even say he relapses because he has never tried to be clean. Not for real, not in my…

“I Wasn’t Invited to my Sister-in-Law’s Party. My Husband is Going Without Me!”

“My husband has been invited to a small 40th birthday dinner for his sister. I have not been invited nor has the absence of my invitation been addressed.”

“Should I Contact My Ex’s Kids?”

“I broke up with a boyfriend of over four years two weeks ago because, over the past year, he slid into a depression that changed huge parts of his personality.”

“Will I Lose All My Friends When I Have Kids?”

“We would like to start planning to have a child, but we have a group of very interesting, awesome friends, none of whom are interested in children.”

Shortcuts: “My Girlfriend’s Family is Too Touchy-Feely”

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in just a few sentences, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go.

“I Have Two Weddings on the Same Day!”

My good friend, a sorority sister from college, got engaged a year and a half ago to my friend from law school. They met through me, I was involved in the elaborate proposal, and I am a bridesmaid in the wedding this June. We have ordered bridesmaids dresses and paid for the makeup for the wedding day. The bride and I are not BEST friends, but I do consider her a very close friend and am ecstatic about her wedding. I also have a half-sister who just got engaged right before Christmas. She is ten years older than I, and growing up, I lived in Baltimore and she lived in Philly. We…

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