“Should I Have a Baby For Him?”

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss having babies to keep a guy, hating your fiancé, and being a secret from the other woman.

“Does He Just Want a Booty Call?”

I’m back in the dating scene after a 20-year marriage. Met an equally-educated professional on an app. He contacted me, and we met for drinks. There was electric attraction and chemistry immediately! He said he contacted me because we’re in the same field of work, have the same level of education, and he found me attractive (not necessarily in that order!). After meeting on Friday night, he called Saturday and said “So, when can I see you again?” He suggested Thursday evening, so I told him I would check and let him know. (The need for a week night stems from his unavailability that weekend, and he let me know what he…

“He’s in Jail. Should I Wait For Him?”

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over five years now, and we have a beautiful four-year-old son. I am 24 and he is 27. Over the last five years we have been through a lot together. He has two other boys from a previous girlfriend whom we have had full time almost the whole five years we’ve been together. Their mother wasn’t involved very much, but recent illegal activities have gotten them taken away and given back to her. My boyfriend and our son and I stayed together. A couple months ago my boyfriend got into some more trouble and is now being held in jail until court….

“Why Do Guys Like Lap Dances?”

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss lap dances, shoplifters, and mack daddies (the moral trifecta!).

“I Can’t Choose Between the Divorcé and the Sex Offender”

I am having trouble choosing between two men in my life. Guy #1 is a man whom I met at my old job. When we first met, I was automatically attracted to him, but he was just getting out of a divorce and I had just ended a three-year relationship. At first, we were just friends, and then we started spending a lot of time together and were inseparable; everywhere I went, he would go — he even went to all of my family functions. About three months after we started hanging out, we were watching a movie together and we fell asleep. Nothing happened sexually; we just slept. But that is…

Your Turn: “I Love Him But I’m Not IN Love With Him”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a gay male and am dating someone whom I am not sexually attracted to. We have been together over two years and have gone for months without having sex. He asks me to go to bed with him and I really don’t want to. I feel bad for rejecting him, but my heart’s just not in it. I have been completely faithful and have not cheated on him, though temptation was there (but I’m not that kind of person). We have been arguing so…

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