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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I just started law school a couple weeks ago. It’s been busy, but fun and interesting so far. However, even though looking for a relationship at this very moment is the last thing on my mind, I can’t help but think about my situation. I went through undergrad boyfriend-less because I was shy and self-conscious about my weight. So what now? School’s my priority, but I don’t want to be single forever. I’d like to have someone to call a boyfriend once in my life! How…

I am a single mother of 3-year-old boy. Two weeks back I met a guy who said he has two kids from different mothers, who would like to go out with me. I don’t know if I should give it a try or not; I’m scared that since he impregnated two women and didn’t marry them that he can still do the same to me. I asked him what his intentions were with me and he said he wants to marry me, but my doubt is I cannot start a family with a man who has two kids plus my own. — Not Lookin’ to be Baby Mama #3  

I am a just-turned-30-year-old woman born with a very noticeable birth defect (no right hand) and less-than-stellar looks. I’m of average weight (size 12-14) and average height (5’3″), and have bipolar disorder. I see a therapist, but when I ask about sex, all she says is ‘lose weight and dress to attract the men you want (i’e., ‘dress slutty, as you won’t do any better with your issues’). I don’t want to dress like a whore, and I don’t want to hang out in bars — hanging out in bars attracts drunks, and while I’m no teetotaler, I don’t want a drug-addicted partner. I’m 30-years-old, and a virgin, and men my age…