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NNew readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. His Take questions are answered by our panel of smart, opinionated, and funny dudes. I have been sexting this guy I know for three weeks. He lives in another country but his hometown is where I currently live. He comes back to the states in less than a month and…

I have been heavily debating getting a divorce from my wife of 13 years for some time now. There are several reasons for this, but I feel like an ass for wanting to get a divorce. Divorce is not unheard of in either of our families, but I feel like a failure for wanting to end it. I want to know if my reasons are good enough for a MOA, or I’m being selfish. Here they are: 1. Health Problems: My wife, “Cheryl,” has more health problems then my 92-year-old grandmother did before she died. Cheryl has some real legitimate problems like a minor case of Cerebral Palsy (bad enough not to…

I’ve been going out with my boyfriend for 6.5 years now. We’ve hit a couple road blocks, but we’ve gotten through everything and have a very strong relationship. Neither of us is keen on marriage in general, especially since we’re still pretty young, but we’ve been making other big steps lately, like moving in together, and we’ve talked about having a long-term future together. His parents are exceptionally well-off and are buying him a condo that we’re both going to live in. We’ve gone over this many times and we’re going to set up a system where I pay him equity into the condo, making me a part owner. Our condo search…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 26 years old and am three months pregnant with my first child. The father of my baby, my boyfriend, is deployed for 10 months to Afghanistan. We had been dating for two months before I got pregnant — the news took me by surprise. I am excited to be a mother for the first time, but I am worried about my relationship. We are both going through life-changing events and it seems like things have changed between us. During the first trimester of my pregnancy,…

My fiancé is a wonderful person whom I agreed to marry almost a year ago. The wedding is set for late May. My work situation is terrible, and there are no more jobs in my industry here in his hometown (my family lives halfway across the country). Now that it’s become apparent I need to move to continue in my career (I’m a TV journalist) he says he’s never leaving his hometown. He likes his job and family proximity, and he thinks my career is too unstable to move (at least mine comes with a contract!). He was never excited about the idea of moving since we started dating four years ago,…