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My fiancé is a wonderful man and our relationship is amazing in every way, except for one thing: kissing during foreplay and sex. It’s really strange, because my fiancé is a great kisser otherwise, and used to be a great kisser while being intimate, but it seems that recently, his kissing skills have regressed. The problem is that when he gets really into the moment, he starts practically mauling my face off, which is not sexy at all, and, is painful when he has stubble, which is most of the time. I’ve usually been able to solve the problem by situating myself so that I’m above him when we’re kissing so that…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m writing for a little advice about my best pal of the last 10 years who just turned 30, has a demanding job in entertainment, and has been married (for 3 years) to her longtime love. She has struggled with anxiety for the last 4 years or so, and is a very holistic type of person (she hates taking any types of pills, let alone something such as anti-anxiety medication that isn’t herbal.) She’s an incredibly smart person, her husband is very supportive and she has…

I have been married for nearly 20 years (lived with hubby for a couple of years first) and we have a small child, under five. I was in my early 20s when we married (and, let’s just say that now I don’t recommend getting married that young), but I have been pretty unhappy in my marriage for probably the past 7 years or so. I have a serious aversion to confrontation. I avoid it like the plague. I’m also, in some ways, a bit of a wimp. Thankfully, I am successful in my career, and it is an escape for me. I swallow the things I want to say about my husband…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I have been with my boyfriend “Allen” for over a year and a half now and were good friends for a few years before we began dating. We have a pretty content relationship except for the fact that I get jealous of the…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: How can I get my wife to get out of her own head and live in the moment with me? We have been married for 7 years and have a 3 and 1 year-old. Mostly, our lives are happy but lately I’ve been frustrated with her inability to step out of her mom-centered managerial mindset and focus on our relationship. Basically, I feel like the 5th or 6th item on her daily list and most days, she doesn’t get to me. It’s not just sex, though…

My husband and I have been married for four years, and dated for three years before we got married. He’s a good person and I do love him and care for him deeply, but I have lost that “in love” feeling. This has been a problem for a while, and I’ve been seeing a therapist to talk about my own issues as well as trying to sort out how I feel about being in this relationship. We both have good jobs, a nice house, and I know that he loves me very much, is very happy with me and he is such a rock through any hard time I’ve gone through. He’s…

My boyfriend and I have known each other for 2.5 years, have been dating for 2 years, and have been in an LDR for much of our relationship. He is European and lives in Europe, and I am American and live in the States. We are both in our last year of college and plan to begin a life together in one of our countries after we finish school. An exchange program allowed me to move to his city for a semester and we agreed that it would be best for me to live with him – not only would we save money, of which I have very little, but we’ve already…