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In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My partner and I have been seeing each other for about six months. The beginning was rocky and more like a secret relationship. For example, we held hands but he let go if anyone we knew could be around, and he wouldn’t tell friends if he had spent the evening with me, etc. Not until the past three months have we become more comfortable with the idea of calling ourselves “girlfriend and boyfriend” and not until two weeks ago did he tell his parents about me….

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I live with my ex-boyfriend and we’re best friends but I still have feelings for him and they are driving me crazy. I can’t tell him how I feel because we live together and if he doesn’t feel the same way he would probably want me to move out and I have no place to go. I think about him all the time to the point where he’s constantly in my dreams and I’m so mentally and physically exhausted by the end of every day from…

It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss leaving a cheater and when to confess feelings for a good friend.

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I met a guy online, about three years ago. Originally, I stopped talking to him because he crossed a line that I do not cross with friends. We talked it over and became really good friends. He calls once in a while to check on me, and vice versa. When I returned to school last year he and I talked a lot, went out to dinner, and saw movies as well. I was at the time breaking up with my ex for the last time and…