Columns

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 24 years old and I have a boyfriend of four years. We’ve had our ups and downs through the years as many couples do — I’ve caught him cheating but was dumb enough to keep believing he’d change. I’m currently unhappy with my relationship because I’m the sole bread-winner and my boyfriend lacks ambition. He doesn’t work, is verbally disrespectful towards me, and jealous because I lack trust for him. I have recently developed feelings for my supervisor at work, who flirts with me all…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), or submit a question for advice. It’s time again for Shortcuts. For every question, I’ll give my advice in three sentences or less, because sometimes the answer to a person’s question is so obvious and the need to hear it so great, being as clear and frank as possible is simply the best way to go. Today we discuss ending a FWB relationship, what to do when your new guy is still active on Match.com,…

“I’ve been dating a wonderful guy for about six months and we’re getting ready to move in together (in about two more months)…”

I’ve got a family reunion coming up where I am the only member of my immediate family going. Both my mom and my sister are boycotting it after the treatment we got last year from my mother’s brothers and their wives (my brother has been boycotting the family for years). Last year there was a baby shower the following week of the reunion for my cousin – a first time dad. The shower host claimed she couldn’t find our addresses then proceeded to make a big deal out of the fact that we “must come”, etc, though she never told us exactly when or where it was. A little later in the…

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: “John” and I met almost six months ago, but only decided to be in an exclusive relationship after four months of dating, right before…