Your Turn: “My Friend Never Leaves Her Boyfriend’s Side”

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: One of my best friends recently got a new boyfriend. She had always been very attached to and reliant on her previous boyfriend — living with him, expecting him to drive her places because she doesn’t have a license or car, etc. Basically, I never saw her without him after she graduated from college (where I met her, sans boyfriend) which was fine because her boyfriend and I got along well. I never felt like the third wheel and always had fun with the two of…

“I’m Jealous of Calendar Girls”

I’m 24 and have had a relationship problem since I was 13: I find it offensive and hurtful when my boyfriend looks at other women, watches movies or even when he goes to his parents’ house where he works in his dad’s shop that has calendar girls. I get angry at him and want to break up with him when he sees a stripper in a movie or a naked woman. It’s so painful because those people in movies and on the calendars are perfect and I can’t even come close to looking like that. When I asked my boyfriend if he thought they were better looking than me, he said yes…

“My Fiancée is Threatening to Move Out”

I met my now fianceé shortly after I had my home built. She moved in a few months later and all was well. A friend of mine who I had roomed with before was being kicked out of his rental home and I asked my fianceé what she thought about him moving in. She said it was fine and felt bad that he was being kicked out on such short notice. Within three months of him moving in with us, he got laid off. He found another job making significantly less money, but enough to still pay rent. Fast forward a few months to earlier this year and he and my fiancée…

“My Relationship is Like a Rollercoaster”

I am 29 and my boyfriend is 27 we are both educated professionals. We have been dating a year and a half and I feel like we are two fools in love who have no idea how to deal with it. I’ve been divorced for four years from my husband of eight years. My boyfriend had an eight year relationship that ended four years ago as well. We met online and have both been very cautious in our relationship, but it has grown to the point where I am ready for a lifetime commitment from him. I’m ready to jump into an engagement, but he’s been backing away. He just got a…

Your Turn: “My Boyfriend Doesn’t Sexually Satisfy Me”

New readers, welcome to Dear Wendy, a relationship advice blog. Read some of the most popular Dear Wendy posts here. If you don’t find the info you need in this column, please visit the Dear Wendy archives or the forums (you can even start your own thread), do a search in the search bar, or submit a question for advice at wendy(AT)dearwendy.com. In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: My boyfriend is incredibly sweet, caring, and an all-around fantastic guy whom I’m truly in love with. We have a connection I never really…

“I Feel Like an Idiot Around My Friends”

I’m a sophomore at college, meeting lots of people, and able to be myself…in some respects. Back in high school, I was one of the “smartest” girls in my class, making Honor Roll and graduating with a 4.0. But enter college — a place filled with TONS of extremely intelligent people, people who talk about the theories of reality or the absence of it, or the origins of civilizations in ancient South America and so on — and I feel so very insecure even talking to these people. I find interests in other things, like music and art and odd facts and so on, but in this environment, I feel like that…

“He Refuses to Call Me His Girlfriend!”

I’ve been dating a guy for going on five months. He owns his own business (inherited from the family) and works about 80+ hours a week. It works out because I am living in a town about two hours away until May, and am only able to come home every other weekend. We talk on the phone every day, have met each other’s families and friends, tell each other we care about one other, talk about personal and painful issues, are monogamous, etc. However, when I attempted to have the ‘relationship’ conversation with him, he came back with the typical guy response of “Why do we need a label?” He has said…

“My Co-Worker is a Relentless Bigoted Sexist”

I work at a small business where I am the only female employee. All the guys I work with are great, except one. He is considerably older than the rest of us (I am in my twenties, the other guys are in their thirties), less educated, and much more conservative. While he is good at his job (which requires little contact with the public), and I fully understand why he is still employed there, I find him extremely offensive and irritating. He trash talks the other employees when they aren’t around, makes racist comments, goes on long tirades about “the liberals,” talks about how superior he and his family are, and generally…

“Should I Give My Friend’s Parents a Gift?”

I (F20) have a friend (M20) whose parents fly out to visit him about twice a year. I’ve met them twice, and both times they have been wonderful. They’re your typical Midwestern parents and I feel like part of the family when I’m with them. They’ve invited me (and others in our friend group) to dinners, brunches, jazz concerts, and general nights on the town. I am well aware that they have spent quite a large sum of money on me at this point. And, of course, they refuse to take any money from me, the broke college student, to help pay for any of this. I know this isn’t an issue…

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