“I Have a Birth Defect and Can’t Get a Date”
I am a just-turned-30-year-old woman born with a very noticeable birth defect (no right hand) and less-than-stellar looks. I’m of average weight (size 12-14) and average height (5’3″), and have bipolar disorder. I see a therapist, but when I ask about sex, all she says is ‘lose weight and dress to attract the men you want (i’e., ‘dress slutty, as you won’t do any better with your issues’). I don’t want to dress like a whore, and I don’t want to hang out in bars — hanging out in bars attracts drunks, and while I’m no teetotaler, I don’t want a drug-addicted partner. I’m 30-years-old, and a virgin, and men my age…