Columns

My boyfriend and I met in college, and moved in together after we graduated, about a year ago. We have talked about getting married, and we both want to. In the year we have been living together we went through some rough times (financial and otherwise), and through everything we’ve been through,I honestly really think he that is the “one.” Well, about a week ago, his older brother proposed to his girlfriend and they are getting married on 7/7 this year. My boyfriend and his brother have always competed with each other, trying to top one another, as brothers often do. So, a few nights ago, my boyfriend says to me, “So…

I used to say I was just bi-curious when I felt physical and emotional attraction to girls, but after nearly 12 years (I’m 24) of being in a “phase,” I finally came out to myself and I cried! I have not told any of my friends or family because I’m scared to death of what they may think. I used to not believe in bisexuality because I was told it was gross and wrong, plus I didn’t have any positive bisexual role models growing. I wish I was one or the other — gay or straight — but I’m just not. If I was gay, my family would be understanding but they…

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I’m 20 and started dating a former co-worker about five months ago. At first he seemed to have his life together for a 25-year-old. He had his BA, two jobs, and had a lot of other things going for him. Naturally, the beginning was and continues to be amazing, although there have been HUGE bumps in the road. There are some trust issues, but he has been a lot of firsts for me, so it’s harder for me to let go. He has been there during…

I’m a sophomore in college. Over winter break four of my guy friends from high school tried to kiss me. The kicker? All four of these “men” are in relationships. Even if I’m sending some sort of subliminal “open for business” signal, it hardly seems right that they would approach even the most sultry of vixens (which I am not…) with the intention of cheating. I’m currently questioning whether I can trust any man — at least any man under 25 — to stay loyal in a relationship when I seem to serve as an overwhelming example of their willingness to stray. — Confused in College

I’m on vacation through May 13th, and in my absence Miles has offered to guest write a couple of columns. Here’s one of them: Dear Miles, Is it possible to be in love with two people at the same time? One man is a good friend and, to my delight, our friendship has blossomed into a wonderful romantic relationship. I cherish every moment we spend together. He is thoughtful, funny and has a kind heart. The other man is my eye doctor. I don’t want to hurt either of them and I’m afraid I’ll only end up hurting both. Should I just MOA and start over with someone new? — Double trouble

In a feature I call “Your Turn,” in which you, the readers, get to answer the question, I’m presenting the following letter without commentary from me: I am a 27 year old female and have been dating a 30 year old man for 1 1/2 years. He is kind, thoughtful, attractive, smart, treats me well and I am in love with him. But…(isn’t there always a but?) he is unable to say he loves me or sees a future, not just for me, but for himself. He is not sure if he ever wants to get married or have children, which was once upon a time his “childhood dream.” This could be…